Post # 1
Right now I have 5 bridesmaids: 3 friends from college, my fiance’s cousin, and a former roommate. We have been engaged since February, and I asked all five to be bridesmaids sometime in February or March. I have another friend who I adore, and probably would have asked earlier if she wasn’t in a PhD program on the other side of the country, but, in spite of the distance, I’m starting to feel that I should have her in my bridal party. She has been so supportive of my fiance and I, and she has helped to keep me sane through all of the wedding drama with my family. She even went with me to pick out my engagement ring!
Do you think the other bridesmaids will feel any less special if I add one more person to the mix? Is it “improper” to add someone later? The wedding is still 8 months away.
Thanks for any of your thoughts on this situation.
Post # 3
I say go for it!
If the others baulk, and I really do not see a reason why, remind them that this is an addition person to give ideas to your bridal shower, and help with the expensives of the bachelorette party.
If you want her besides you on your day, do it. Let your other bridesmaids know that you are adding one more lady to the group and then arrange a meet and greet?
Post # 4
I think it’d be fine – One of my bridesmaids backed out in February, my wedding is in September… I added a new bridesmaid in March, and it’s been great for all involved! And she didnt feel slighted by being asked later either!
Post # 6
I agree! I think you should go for it. Ultimately, it’s a statement that you want her standing up there next to you when you begin your marriage. I think that it’s still far enough out from the wedding that it won’t come across as an “after thought.”
Post # 7
I say you should add her. I did the same recently! I added a friend 3 months after I asked my BM’s. None of my BM’s said anything either, other than the more the merrier!