- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
My fiance and I got engaged about four months ago and asked our attendants almost immediately and then announced it right after they all accepted. We decided to have 5 attendants each. I have two sisters so I could only ask three friends to be bridesmaids, and since I was in a sorority in college it was hard to choose between all my girlfriends. In the end I had to make a choice and one of my really good friends got left out of being in the bridal party and we asked her to do a reading instead. This past week my fiance has decided to ask his brother to be a groomsman. He originally just asked him to be an usher since he is 10 years younger than us and would not be able to attend the bachelor party or be with the bridal party at the bar (he’s the only person in the wedding party under 21), but he’s had a change of heart. Since he’s adding another groomsman I thought it would be a good opportunity to ask my friend that was originally left out. I’m not sure how to do this, I don’t want her to feel like she’s the second pick or the forgotten friend. I gave all my other bridesmaids gifts of Lilly Pulitzer Agendas to ask them but I’m not sure what to do for her since we’re now four months after the others were asked. How do I ask her without her feeling like she was second best, and how do I add her in with the other bridesmaids without them feeling like they weren’t enough?