- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Ok here it goes. My younger brother was married 5 years ago. I am getting married in 3 months. When he got married I was in a unhappy relationship and very jealous that it was not me. I did not approve of the girl he married because she was young, spoiled and naive. We grew up on a farm and worked hard to get where we are today. I was a bridesmaid in their wedding even though I did not expect to be. I was mean to her and made her cry many times because I did not think they were right for eachother. We still have our differences but she is a great mom to my nephews and is good to my brother. She and I still disagree about alot because I am older and I think my life has been harder where everything is handed to her ( via her family). Now I am getting married and did not ask her to be in my wedding. Well my bridal shower is next month and my girls have done NOTHING. Half of them haven’t called, emailed or nothing. I moved about an hour away from them 6 months ago but I still try and call and email. Well my SIL has stepped up to the plate and MADE me gorgeous invitations, mailed them out, and has taken care of making the centerpieces and favors because she told my mom, ” I want her to have a really nice wedding.” That makes me feel like total crap because she is being the bigger person. Now I want to somehow include her in my wedding. I was thinking of having her do a reading and maybe purchasing a dress similar to my girls. Problem is, there is no extra room in the limo for her or my brother, who is walking me down the aisle since our Dad is deceased, and I just don’t know what to do. I am really sad and confused and need help with how to make her a part of the wedding since she has done so much for me. My mom told me all of this even tho she did not want to. I guess my Maid/Matron of Honor pretty much let my SIL do everything. What should I do to make her feel special??