- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
My brother is in the process of finalizing the guest list for his wedding next summer. They chose a venue with a maximum of 200 – not small, but not large enough for his and his FI’s large extended families plus friends. My mom is already stressing over being unable to invite many close family friends, especially since they were all invited to our wedding a few months ago.
My husband’s parents are originally from a different country, with cultural expecations somewhat different from those in the US. To them, marriage is more about the joining of two families than two individuals. Now that my husband and I are married, my in-laws view my parents as just as much “family” as their own siblings. I really like this approach and, even though my parents were initially somewhat put off by it, they are warming to the idea and getting to know my in-laws better.
This creates a problem with my brother’s wedding. My in-laws are not currently on the guest list, which I understand based on a limited guest list and the typical American expectations of who is normally invited to a wedding. However, in my in-law’s culture, the groom’s sister’s in-laws would not only be invited, but be pretty high on the list of importance. I do not want my new in-laws to be hurt by my family not inviting them. However, I feel bad putting my brother in an awkward position by asking him to add them to an already tight guest list.