Post # 1
Our wedding is not until June 2012, but we are having an engagement party this June. It never occurred to me to register now, at 14 months out, but it seems a lot of people expect us to- we’ve been getting a surprising amount questions on where/when am I registering, etc.
So my question is, is it appropriate to register before the e party?? And if so, how many places do we do? In total I have 3 places I want to register at, but as that’s a year away, should I just do one or two for now? Or all 3?
Post # 3
A lot of people expected us to register for our e party too, but we just felt it was too rushed so we decided not to. If you know what you want I think I would register at 1 place. We haven’t thought about the registry yet because we don’t want items we fall in love with to be discontinued. (We’re also June 2012)
Post # 4
I agree with @TinyTina – we had a lot of people ask, but we just didn’t want to register that soon. So we got a lot of gift cards and wine 🙂
Post # 5
We’ve registered already and we’re March of 2012. We did it really at the insistance on my mom, but luckily, nothing on there is something we’re totally in love with so even if it does get discontinued, we’re okay with going in and updating it again in 6 months or so.
Post # 6
I also think a lot of stuff would be discontinued by the time the actual wedding came around…this happened to a lot of my friends who only registered 6 months or so out! Maybe you can create a small “starter” registry at one store with fewer items just for the engagement party and add to it as you get closer to your wedding date.
Post # 7
Same here, people asked but we did not register. It would have felt weird to me (engagement party was 12 months before wedding)…mostly people just gave us cash or gift cards. We certainly did not expect gifts, and we were very prompt in sending out thank you cards.
Post # 8
We were in the same boat. We started getting gifts after we got engaged. Random gifts. They were all very thoughtful and nice but few of them are actually our style. Then before our engagement party a friend’s mom suggested we register. So we did. We basically registered for the stuff we would have for the showers/wedding. The rest of our gifts that we received came from those registries.
Post # 9
Maybe I’ve just never been to this type of engagement party, but every one I’ve been to has been more like a party where it’s perfectly acceptable to bring just a card or a bottle of champagne and gifts aren’t required. So, given my experiences, I would think it a little strange and gift-grabby for the couple to register for an engagement party.
Post # 10
Thanks for your replies…I do feel a little weird about it- I genuinely was not expecting all of the generous gifts and stuff that we have already received, so I def wasn’t expecting people to ask about a registry.
@MM423: that’s a good idea…my Maid/Matron of Honor said she, and other people, wanted to get like “keepsake” gifts, so I am thinking about maybe just registering for our china and nothing else right now. I can do the rest of it later.
@floridabride12: yeah, his mom is the one who really put this in my head- it’s her friends that are asking so she thinks we should.