(Closed) Adding to Guest List?

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
145 posts
Blushing bee

oh my… that is a toughy. My thought is, that is a decision that you and your Fiance must determine exactly who is important and who is not. You guys should know each other’s family well enough to know who you talk to all the time and who the family is close to. And that should be up to your Fiance to respectfully speak to his mother about the different dynamics in the other’s family. However, the question is, who is paying for this wedding, if his mom is paying, then the list should be equal (they must have input). If your parents or you are, then she should not be upset as to the guest list.

Post # 4
8028 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, if your parents get 116 and his only get 66, I can see why his mom might be upset.  That is a big difference.   It does depend on who is paying to some extent- but i think it is kind of unbalanced.  Does Fi’s mom have specific people she wants to invote that are important in FI’s life?  Or is she just upset about the numbers without having like, say 6 more specific people in mind?  If she has only a few more people I would relent.  If she is thinking it needs to be half and half just on priniple- then no.

Post # 5
1565 posts
Bumble bee

Unless his parents are paying, I don’t think they should get more guests. You’ve already compromised a lot, and it doesn’t sound to me like you’re doing anything wrong. Honestly, I wouldn’t have even told Future Mother-In-Law that some of the relatives on your dad’s side aren’t technically “close”. 



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