(Closed) Additional Roles for Guests at Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

When I was a kid, my cousins and I stood at doors to the sanctuary and handed out programs at every Aunt’s wedding. It was a great way to include us, but not go overboard with the petal tossing.

Who else are you trying to include?

aaaand of course, welcome to WeddingBee!

Post # 4
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009


Some guests could be readers and ushers; for little kids, daydreamwanderer’s idea of having them hand out programs is a great idea.

We used the church’s sound system at our wedding rather than having live music, and one of our close friends was in charge of the music. 

Post # 6
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

if you have men that you’re trying to include, you could ask them to hold the poles for the chuppah. at my brothers wedding they had someone sing sunrise sunset. you can have someone hand out the yarmulkes, because i’m sure a lot of the non jews wont know what they are or if they’re supposed to take them.

Post # 8
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

our chuppah will be stationary, but we will still have people by each pole “holding” them.  also, there are traditionally seven blessings read in a jewish ceremony, and we will have people reading them in hebrew and english, creating 14 more parts – you can also ask people to do a reading or song of your choice.  if you would like more info on the seven blessing (sheva brachot) anita diamont’s book “the new jewish wedding” is a great resource

Post # 10
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

At our wedding, we had two attendants, one reader, seven people doing the seven blessings, one person operating the music CD, one person videotaping the ceremony, and one person giving ha-motzi immediately following the ceremony.  We chose to have a stationary chuppah in large part because we were running out of guests!

Also, don’t forget about witnesses to the ketubah, ushers, or people to pass out kippot and programs.

Post # 11
156 posts
Blushing bee

haha we’re planning on including ALL (yes ALL, we are crazy) of my bf (still waiting…)’s cousins (23). We’re including all sorts of odd jobs…i.e. handing the breaking glass to Boyfriend or Best Friend. LOL anything to not let anyone feel left out! We’ll also have 1 person handing out kippahs, 1 person handing out kippah CLIPS, 2 people handing out programs…

Post # 13
177 posts
Blushing bee

What about the kiddish and hamotzi at the reception? That’s 2 people!

Post # 15
177 posts
Blushing bee

Crap, you’re right! Oops!

Post # 16
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

We had a ton of people we wanted to honor and include, so we had 14 participate in the sheva b’rachot (http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/11/16/æ„›-vey-were-going-to-the-chuppah-and-were-gonna-get-married/); 4 sign the ketubah; 2 sign the civil marriage license; and a number of childhood friends plan the schtick during the hora.  Mr. HC’s uncles said kiddush and hamotzi at the reception, and two of our friends lit shabbat candles at the welcome dinner the night before the wedding.

As for non-Jewish ways to include more people, how about having friends or those adorable cousins hand you flowers as you walk down the aisle — thus creating your bouquet on the spot?

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