(Closed) Addressing ettiquette

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would send an invite to each individual in a house if they are part of a different family even if they are roommates.

When I addressed my invitations I used their titles as they were at the time they received the invitation. Therefore, if they were not married yet but living together I would address it with both of their names: John Doe and Jane Smith.

I hope this helps

Post # 4
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

1. If people live in the same place but are not members of the same family (ie, roomates, or technically even grown children (18+) who still live at home) then each person gets his/her own invite. So you send two Save-The-Date Cards. Sending one sort of implies they’re a couple (even though I’m sure they’d get it if you just sent one. Do send two invites, though).

2. If a couple is not married yet, you list them on separate lines alphabetically by last name:

Dr. Jane Doe

Mr. John Smith (or whatever)

I don’t think you use “Future Mr. and Mrs. Smith” even though it’s cute.

3. If the two people are married, then you address them as “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” even if you don’t know one of the spouses. If you would like to address the envelope more casually using their first names, you’ll have to find out the name of the spouse you don’t know.

Post # 6
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You need to send two save the dates to room mates. I had friends who got one wedding invitation and were quite upset – they still talk about it six months later.

Use both names for people who are living together but not married.

You should never address something to Mrs. Smith & husband – use both names or address it just to the person you know.

Post # 7
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

1. We sent only 1 STD per address but sent separate invites to the individuals/couples. I think since Save-The-Date Cards often go on fridges, it’s fine to have 1 per household.

2. Even for soon-to-be-marrieds, I would address the invitations with their current names.

3. Don’t put “and husband.” Find out the person’s name before you send the invites.

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