(Closed) Addressing Invitations

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 5
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have a friend who is married and kept her maiden name. I address her envelopes as:

Mr. Scott Thompson and Mrs. Lisa Lewis.

Does that help?

Post # 6
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i have a few friends that have kept their maiden names. i got so many different opinions on what to address them so i ended up just calling each of them and personally asking them what they’d prefer. i HIGHLY suggest you do that cause some people actually get REALLY offended if you mess up what to address them!

Post # 8
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I addressed all of my invites with both spouses first names, whether the last name was the same (usually) or was different.  Personally, I don’t really like getting mail where I am referred to as Mrs. HisFirstName OurLastName.  But it can be a generational thing (my mom hates it, my grandma prefers it, i’m somewhere in the middle), so you may want to check with a few key family members to see if anyone has a strong preference.

Post # 9
28 posts

This is a big issue with my future mother in law! She insists that women who kept their last name or are doctors when their husbands are not are "Mrs.". She also wants to be referred to as "Mrs. John Jones" instead of "Mrs. Jenny Jones". It is old-school. The modern Peggy Post states this:


married couple, woman kept maiden name:

Ms. Sarah Jane Smith and Mr. Michael Joseph Miller (out envelope)

Ms. Smith and Mr. Miller (inner envelope)

Also, if you are a medical doctor you spell out "Doctor". If you have a Ph.d. it is "Dr." My friend is a Ph.d. and kept her name so her invite would be:

 Dr. Sarah Jane Smith and Mr. Michael Joseph Miller (outer envelope)

Dr. Smith and Mr. Miller (inner)

 *If she was a medical doctor, it would be Doctor Sarah Jane Smith and Mr. Michael Joseph MIller

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