Post # 1
FI’s nephew (who is 25 and will be receiving an invitation of his own) goes by a shortenened version of his middle name. Let’s just say his name is John Michael Jones, but he goes by Mike on a regular basis.
I figure this leaves us with three options for addressing his invitation:
- Mr. John Jones (which he never uses)
- Mr. Michael Jones (can we just use the middle name and drop his first name altogether?)
- Mr. John Michael Jones (which just seems long)
Which is most appropriate?
Post # 3
@smiles4jo: My father goes by a shortened version of his middle name. I didn’t do the Mr. and Mrs. thing on invitations, but I addressed to the equivalent of “Michael Jones”. If he goes by that name all the time, he probably won’t even think twice seeing it on the invite. Whereas if he saw John Michael Jones, he might take pause and think, “wow, that’s weird.”
Post # 4
My dad goes by his middle name, and formally he is Firstinitial. Full Middle Name Lastname.
Post # 7
I think it is fine to do Mr. Michael Jones.
One of our friends goes by his middle name. At his wedding, he even used his middle name in the vows.
There’s usually a reason (even if it is just personal preference) they use their middle name, so while they would probably acknowledge it would be more correct to have the first name, they would probably appreciate you using their preferred name.
If you still feel a little wierd doing it, you could use his first inital only:
Mr. J. Michael Jones
Post # 8
One of my BMs does this! Pretend her name is Margaret Christine Smith. I know she hates being called Margaret, and usually goes by Christy. I addressed her invite to Ms. Christine Smith because it’s still formal sounding, but it wouldn’t offend her.