Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m getting ready to send out my STDs and have a question about addressing invitations. We have a family with four kids, all of whom are living at home – ages around 11, 15, 23, 26. Do I send one invitation to the whole family, or do I send separate ones to the older two? Will that be awkward for the younger two? None of them are dating anyone, and we’re not doing +1s for single family members.
Post # 2
The older two would receive their own, the younger two would be listed on their parent’s.
Keep in mind STDs arent required for everyone. What I listed above is for invites.
Post # 5
So would I do one STD and then separate it out for the invitations? I do want to send a STD, since we’re sending them to basically everyone that’s getting an invitation (and these are out-of-town guests).
Post # 7
my opinion apparently goes against etiquette, but I think it would be the least awkward to address it to the “parents and family”
Post # 8
I agree with this. I would send one invitation to one household (a family living all together). It is just the most practical way.
Post # 9
If I were the adult child, this would confuse me, and I wouldn’t know if I was invited. So, for me, less of an etiquette thing, and more practicality. I would invite the adult children seperately.
Post # 10
All the children should be named. I’m 29 and live with my parents, and at my cousin’s wedding last month, the invite said my parents and then my name: “Mr and Mrs Brent Page, and Ms Alyssa Page’ and then my Fiance as a +1.
Post # 11
I’d say all in one STD, especially as they’re all single. I think that adult children get their own when they no longer live with their parents, or have a SO in which will be invited. 🙂
Post # 12
We sent one STD per household – in the few situations where there are adult children living at home, we made sure to address the envelope to each of the people invited. When we send out invites, we’ll send the adult children their own. It may be against etiquette, it just seemed a bit silly to send 2 or even 3 STDs to a single address.
Post # 13
I have adult children in my house, and sometimes I barely see them! My point is that an STD to the parents may not even be seen by the adult children. Adult children also have their own lives, and may go schedule a vacation with their friends if they don’t know there is a wedding on.
Spend two extra stamps.
Post # 14
I am sending mine out as “The x family” I dont think there will be any confusion. You could also say “Mr. & Mrs. X and Children”
Post # 15
I went against etiquette and just sent one invitation per household. I’m assuming that one person is checking the mail and the fewer pieces of mail there are, the less likely things are to get lost in the shuffle. I put everybody’s name who was invited on the invitation, and then they only had to send back one RSVP card. This saved me money and saved them hassle. Now, I think if they had been married and living at home, I probably would have sent a second invitation.