(Closed) Addressing Invitations with no inner envelope

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would do option A
And for the and/& I would say:

“Jane & John Smith

And family”

Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@PinkBubbleGum: I agree.

Use A but lose the second ampersand. Or just say “The Smith Family”

Post # 5
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I won’t have inner envelopes and I was planning on using “The Smith Family” when children are invited. I’m also writing in the number of seats reserved for them on the RSVP card, so for my Matron of Honor who has three kids, it will say “We have reserved 5 seats in your honor.”

I also considered making simple belly bands to go around my invitations and writing all the names on there. The only thing stopping me is my crummy handwriting.

Post # 7
1696 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t actually need inner envelopes to put the guests’ names on the inside, where they belong. I know that privacy isn’t a big issue for many people nowadays, but for a few possibly old-fashioned folks, who is living with whom or who is dating whom and the first names of their various minor children, are just not things that they want publicized on the outside of their mail.

Those who do routinely send written invitations, know already that a hand-written invitation includes the names on the invitation itself: “Miss Aspasia Phipps/requests the pleasure of the company of/Mr and Mrs Jones…” (if you are being formal) or “Dear Jane/I hope that you and John will be able to join us…” (if you are being informal). The problem is, of course, how to do that with a mass-printed invitation. That is the *real* reason that the inner-envelope has survived to this century for weddings and nothing else: because weddings tend to have printed invitations. But for generations engraved invitations were used with a write-in line between the lines of engraving, where the hostess would insert the names of the guests in hand writing.

So, if you haven’t ordered your invitations yet and are thinking of foregoing inner envelopes to save costs or reduce your ecological footprint, think ahead and have the invitations themselves printed appropriately. Nowadays, you can even use mail-merge and have the whole invitation printed in the same font with the names of the individual guests inserted automatically by the software that drives the print routine.

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee

For simplicity use The Smith Family on the outside envelope.

I think the belly bands idea is cute and you can print it on the computer and type in several at a time and then use a paper cutter to separate them!  Use a glue stick to attach the two ends.  This is a real cute idea.  It also specifies who is invited so you don’t have Aunt Aggie’s three children deciding they can’t possibly go without a plus one and instead of a family of 5, the Smith’s are now 8 people not 5 “because she won’t really care if we bring more people.”

This is what I love about this site.  Multiple ideas coming together!!  Wonderful.  Good luck.




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