(Closed) Addressing invite to a widow

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I had to look that up when addressing our invites and it is “Mrs” unless you know for sure they reverted back to Ms.


Post # 4
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Mrs. Jane Doe is most appropriate, IMO.  

Post # 5
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had more than a few invites in this situation, and I addressed them all “Mrs. ____ _____”

Post # 6
3942 posts
Honey bee

I dont know the etiquette but as the daughter of a widow I prefer Mrs. Jane Doe

Post # 7
1842 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I believe etiquette reads, “Mrs. John Smith” (Mrs. but paired with her husband’s name).  I have several as well but after talking to them (one is FI’s grandma), she said she would prefer “Mrs. Jane Smith” (still using Mrs. but pairing it with her first and last name).

Post # 8
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I addressed them as Mrs. HerName  We had an aunt who lost her husband recently, and the Mrs. HisName would have been too overhwelming for her.  The others, like DH’s grandma, have been widows for so long (10+ years) that it’s not as much a part of their identity anymore.  My great-grandma hasn’t been Mrs. HisName for 25 years, so it would have been weird to call her that.

I would assume to go with Mrs. HerName, unless you know they’re Ms. or would prefer it the other way.

Post # 9
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sure this has already been resolved since it’s been a few months ago but my grandmother and FI’s grandmother both are widows and we’re addressing it Mrs. Jane Doe instead of Mrs. John Doe.  I think etiquette does call for it to still be Mrs. John Doe and I normally am an etiquette queen but out of respect to our grandmothers we’re doing Mrs. Jane Doe.

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