Post # 1
So I HATE the tradition of “Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst HisLast” for invites. I don’t want to lose my first name when we get married! I want to include the woman’s first name on the invites. Did any of you face this issue, and what did you do?
I have considered dropping the “Mr. and Mrs.” and just doing “Susan and Robert Smith,” but I like the titles for formality. I thought about “Mrs. Susan and Mr. Robert Smith,” but that sounds sorta weird. Thoughts?
Post # 2
flowerchild45 : I hate it too so my invites will just be to “Mr & Mrs Smith” (if they share a last name obviously!) no initials at all on the envelope and the invite itself will just use first names.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
Do whatever you like! For my Engagement party invitations I address them all as Mr. John Smith & Mrs. Susan Smith. For one family I put “The Smith Family” since they and the children were invited. I wanted to ensure it was super clear who was invited!
You can do whatever you like Bee!
Post # 4
I just did both first and last name eg Jane and Robert Smith so no confusion who was invited and also hate the traditional way of mr and mrs his first and last name
Post # 5
I did mine totally “wrong” etiquette wise, but I did what feels right for us. I left off all titles unless it was an earned title (ex: Dr. Jane Smith & Robert Smith, Lt. Jonathan Doe and Michael Doe-Redford). I hate the “Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith” crud, it’s so outdated.
As long as it’s clear who is invited, it doesn’t really matter!
Post # 6
flowerchild45 : i went with just first names becasue i don’t like the implications of the titles (“mrs” is only technically correctly used with a husband’s name). but if you insist on keeping Mr. and Mrs., you could do Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith (it’s not *technically* correct, but it’s appearing more and more).
Post # 7
I don’t like that tradition either so I just went with “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”