(Closed) Addressing invites – married couples

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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samira86:  Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

When we contacted everyone asking for their addresses, we also asked them how they’d like to be addressed. That way everyone was happy.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

If you want to include the wifes first name then you address it as…

Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

why don’t you address your people by first names, and let your Fiance address his how he wants

Post # 6
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Busy bee

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samira86:  Mr. & Mrs. Doe is appropriate. Mr. John, & Mrs. Jane Doe is also appropriate.

Mr. & Mrs. John Doe is also appropriate – but I don’t like this one. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I actually think that Mr. and Mrs. Doe is less formal than Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe. In the grand scheme of things though, whatever you put should be fine. The only address that I’d be upset at is if I got one with Mr. and Mrs. John Doe on it, but otherwise, any of the other options seems totally fine.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe –> this isn’t really that weird, and is what I would use. Both names should be included – it’s 2016.

Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Smith –> for if they have different last names and/or are not married

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I followed the “Mr John and Mrs Jane Doe” formula with no ampersand. For married friends who had not taken their spouses names, I did Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith (putting the person who I was closer to first). I am not sure if this is proper etiquette, but I hate “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” blech.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I didn’t even do the Mr. and Mrs.  It was just “John and Jane Doe” or “Jane Doe” and “John Smith.”  I’m not a very formal person though.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Outer Envelope – Mr. and Mrs. John P. Doe

Inner Envelope – Jane and John

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m pretty sure you’re not “supposed to” separate a man’s first name from his last, so the Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith usage is generally not used… 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I think I put Ms, rather than Mrs on ours since this is the way it is at my workplace now (no Miss or Mrs – everyone, regardless of marital status is Ms). I can’t remember what I did specifically but I definitely included both names. I had a harder time with the invites for those with different last names, those with Dr and those with children where the wife and husband had differing last names. Some of mine were lengthy for those!

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