Addressing Invites to Roommates

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

I would address the couples invites together and send them to the girl’s address honestly (girls don’t lose things like wedding invites, boys might) and other single friends get their own invite even if they live in the same house. Just to keep things from getting confusing I would send everyone their own invite. Unless they are in a couple then I would mail the invite to the girl with her and her partner’s name on it. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

For single guests that are roommates, send each thier own invite. For couples that don’t live together you can either send them each thier own or choose one of them to send it to with both names on the invite. The second is what I’ve seen most often.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I agree with PP’s. For roommates, send them each an invite. They’re their own people, and adults. So they each get an invite. For couples, send them an invite with both their names on it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I think it depends on your exact relationship with everybody involved. If they don’t live together and you want them both (separately) at your wedding than I would Just send everybody their own invite. If they broke up would you want Maggie there as well as Cole? Or are you only inviting Maggie because it’s a serious relationship that Cole is in. If your friends with Cole more than Maggie than send it to him with her name on it that way if the worst should happen then Cole will know that he is still invited rather than assuming he is Maggie’s date. However, since it’s probable that in this case Maggie would still be invited because she is rommies with Eva who is also invited, I think I might just send them all a personal invite, which is slightly more work and money for you but worth it in my opinion to avoid confusion. Since they don’t live together and you seem to be friends with both i don’t think it would offend anyone with separate invites. Also, I don’t know the couple so maybe there is no risk of them breaking up but just thought I would share a hypothetical that no one has mentioned yet. As others said i would also give the roommates separate invites as well.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Each single person gets their own even if they live together. I’d put the couple on one invite and send it to the one you are closest to i.e. the guy.

Post # 8
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698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

If you are closer to the guy then in that case I would address it to him with his and her name on it 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper

Etiquette says that even a +1 should get a separate invitation in their own name. Same with a couple not living together. Each one properly gets an invitation.

If worst comes to worst and there is a break up within the six to eight weeks between invitations being mailed and the wedding, I have no doubt your friend is capable of handling any communication over this issue. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper

Etiquette says that even a +1 should get a separate invitation in their own name. Same with an established couple not living together. Each one properly gets an invitation.

If worst comes to worst and there is a break up within the six to eight weeks between invitations being mailed and the wedding, I have no doubt your friend is capable of handling any communication over this issue. 

Singles who are roommates always get separate invitations. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Leases expire, people move. You’ll probably want to separate out the friends’ invites. For couples, send it to the person you are most close to and give them both a heads up via text to say “look for this in X friend’s mailbox this week”. Nowadays a lot of young people don’t check their mail for days at a time…

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