Post # 1
Addressing my invites… not sure…HELP!
Ok…so My invites have been ordered so that means that we need to really lock down the invitee list.
We were trying to keep it small…but it seams to have doubled in the last few months.
We’ve gone from 80 to 190. We are panicking just a little ( ok a lot) because we are paying the whole thing ourselves.
We’ve decided to just suck it up and go with the flow…
My problem now is… +1’s L
I have a lot of cousins…. But there are only 3 of them that have steady SO’s ( that ive met on numerous occasions).
But I have a lot of cousins between the ages of 18 and 28…none of them in relationships…most of them im not close to.
I do NOT want to add plus one’s so that I can have a dozen strangers at my wedding.
(not to mention… I don’t anticipate receiving gifts from 90% of these cousin also)
Am I being inappropriate address the invite to them and to them alone?
I just really don’t want to…and I know I sound cheap…but when you’re paying over 100$ a person….I don’t want to feed you if I don’t know you…
Post # 3
I would just make sure to have a rule across the board. If no one has a guest unless they are in a long term relationship, then all people in long term relationships should get guests and the others should not. Honestly, if I were the one paying, I probably wouldn’t have let the guest list get so big. Your families can whine all they want but they aren’t the ones paying so they don’t really get a say.
Post # 4
I agree that it sucks that your families forced such a large guest list on you when you are paying. MissAB is correct.. as long as the rules are the same for everyone you are absolutely not required to invite people with a guest as long as they are not married or engaged.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies…Definetly releives me.
I can be such a softy when it comes to these things… but I need to remember that no one else is paying but us. Im just so tired of hearing the sentence….”you know you’re going to have to invite so and so”…. So +1s were starting to give me anxiety.
Post # 6
I agree, no +1 unless we have met the SO, the were living together, or engaged.
Explain you have to keep your numbers down!