Post # 1
My save the date cards arrived in the mail today and I cannot wait to get home from work to pick them up!
Before I start addressing them, I have what is probably a dumb question. If I am inviting a close friend with her boyfriend, but I’ve never met the boyfriend, do I send the save the date addressed to both of them or just to my friend?
On the formal invitation, I know I’ll use both names. Does the same go for casual save the dates? I’m thinking if I don’t put his name too, she may worry that he won’t be invited.
My other worry is that I am inviting him because they’ve been together for a long time. (I’ve never met him b/c they live on the opposite coast and she usually comes home alone when she visits.) *If* they break up before our wedding, I wouldn’t invite her with a date because we’re only inviting couples in committed relationships. So I’m worried that if I do put his name on the save the date and then they break up before invitations go out, she may assume that she can bring a random date in his place.
I know I’m over thinking this…but would love some input. Thanks!
Post # 3
Just address the save-the-date to her, not him.
Post # 4
I would just address it to her for now. Since it’s not a formal invitation you still have the ability to add guests in the future. If she questions it or gets upset that her boyfriend wasn’t listed just tell her that the Save the Dates were more casual and not an indication of the final invitation list. I assume they don’t live together so she should understand why mail would be addressed to just her.
Post # 5
@Moose1209: That’s a good point…they do not live together. If they did, I guess I’d address it to both.
Post # 6
The Save the Dates do not need to be addressed as formally as the invites. Just address them to whoever you are inviting, in this case your friend and then when it comes time for the actual invites, it would be to your friend plus her date and you should find out her dates name before you send the invite.
Post # 7
Any additional thoughts? I’m going home to pick them up in 10 mins and can’t wait to see them!!!
Post # 8
We did a very limited release of save the dates, just to the main people that we really wanted to save the date. Not nearly all the people we eventually ended up formally inviting.
I say just send it to her only.