(Closed) Addressing Save the Dates

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Depends on how fancy you’re going…i’ve seen it done both ways. The cool thing about STD’s is that they’re like the one non-conformist thing you can do in the invitation suite. Our invitations are super fancy letterpress, but our STD postcard was a fun cartoonish design. So what I’m saying is, you can step outside of the “rules” a bit on the Save-The-Date Cards, and I think that would include addresses too.

Post # 4
Member
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My STD was very informal but I adressed it to Mr. & Mrs. John Smith anyway because it was what I wanted to do. You can do whatever you please with the STD I think. 

Post # 5
Member
9209 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’m just going to do the names.  We’re not formal people and neither is our STD, so it would look kinda weird otherwise.

Post # 6
Member
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just did it without the titles because 1) we were in a rush and 2) I was lazy. No one seemed offended, aside from Future Father-In-Law (now FIL) who was offended that he didn’t get a title as he is a Doctor, which he is immensely proud of.

However, if you are using address labels or printing the envelopes, you may as well set the address with Mr. & Mrs. now and get it over with. If you save the file or just print out two sets of labels now, you can save yourself time later on.

Yes, we labeled our envelopes. Honestly, they looked way better than if we handwrote them and we were too frugal to hire a calligrapher.

Post # 8
Member
2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I just asked my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom this today, we have postcard STD so since they are fairly informal and we are not extremely formal people my Maid/Matron of Honor thought it was fine to just say Jack & Jane Thompson while my mom said Mr. & Mrs. Thompson for the older guests specifically and the initial suggestion for everyone else.  Not sure what we are going to do yet though!

Post # 9
Member
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@NVACat:  Outer envelopes are not so much “formal” or “informal” as they are business documents, representing a communication between you the sender, and the postal service whom you are instructing to deliver the contents. I prefer to be referred to as “Miss Aspasia Phipps” in business documents, being not on a first name basis with either the postal workers at the Winnipeg mail-sorting centre, nor the letter carrier.

The topic ‘Addressing Save the Dates’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors