Post # 1
So we’re sending save the dates out super early (11 months before the wedding) because 80+% of our guests are Out of Town and we’ve already been engaged for over a year so I’m just ready to send them. Most of them aren’t an issue for me to address them, because they are for relatives and close friends.
I have a lot of engaged and long term relationship couples, some of whom will be married by the time the wedding rolls around. I’m planning on addressing them:
Mr. John Smith, Miss Jane Doe
Place where John or Jane lives (whichever address they gave me, I’m not sending them to separate addresses because they are attending together and that just makes my life too complicated.)
There are also some people who have boyfriends right now, though I haven’t met the boyfriend and couldn’t tell you how long they have been together other than they were together when I gathered addresses 2 months ago and are still facebook official (gotta love the internet 😉 ). Everyone who is over the age of 18 and not in a relationship will be allowed one guest. I’m not sure if I should address their save the date to just the person I know:
or if I should address it like I’m doing with the people in long term relationships:
Mr. John Smith, Miss Jane Doe
Place where the person we know lives.
Advice? ETA: We plan on addressing the invitations to both the person we know and their SO at the time, even if we haven’t met them.
Post # 3
I know nothing about etiquette, but in my opinion if you’re allowing everyone a plus one, then you’d just address the SDT to the person you know and let them decide to tell/bring their SO. What if they break up by the time your wedding comes around? Then they won’t have a STD addressed to someone they aren’t with anymore, and they can bring a different +1.
Post # 4
@BabyBlueEyes: Ok thats what I was leaning towards. The people who are part of couples that we know well would be invited regardless of whether they broke up so we will leave those addressed to both people. (And we will send them each their own invite if things go south *knock on wood*.) For the couples we only know half of, I’ll just address the Save the Date to the person we know.
Post # 5
I would not do boyfriends/girlfiend names on the STD’s. I would just do the person you’re intending to invite. Then the invitation is where you would address it to the people part of that grouping/party.
Post # 6
If you include the boyfriend you will have to invite them even if the couple breaks up.
STD’s are an invitation, and are really meant to be sent to only those people that you CANNOT get married without. It doesn’t sound like you care about these boyfriends at all, so send them to Jane Doe.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: Should I also leave off fiances and husbands we don’t really know?
Post # 8
For those in serious relationships we addressed Save-The-Date Cards to:
123 Weddingbee Lane (Jane’s address)
with the member of the couple we know listed first, and the date second. A few couples broke up before we sent out invitations. We sent invitations only to the first name (i.e., Jane).
For singles we addressed Save-The-Date Cards to Jane Doe and invitations to Jane Doe and Guest.
Post # 9
Oops. I voted wrong! Should have said just name for person and not date/bf except for long terms.