(Closed) Addressing save the dates

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It could lead some people to think that the whole family should save the date.

You could address the envelope only to the adults invited, or add a line to the STD mentioning an adult reception.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would definitely only address them to the people who are going to be invited to the wedding. Invitations and addressing are ALL ABOUT setting expectations – including “The Smith Family” or “John & Jane Smith & Family” is setting expectations that are going to be violated later – making people unhappy.

Definitely a downside to holiday/STD combos I hadn’t thought of before.

Post # 5
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12956 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you include the holiday card to the family, they are going to assume that everyone is invited.  I think this has the potential to create some very sticky situations.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think in this case you might need to a) send a holiday card to the family, and b) send a separate STD to the adults just to make it clear (although people won’t always get this of course), or c) no holiday card, just an STD to the adults.

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