Post # 1
So, I’m working on addressing our save-the-dates, and I’ve hit a couple roadblocks.
First: We are not inviting kids to our wedding. We are, however, having a babysitter, so that our family members with little ones can still attend, and the kids will be welcome at other wedding-related activities that weekend. Keep in mind that 90% of our guests are coming in from out of town. That being said: how to address the invitations for the save-the-dates? “Jane and John Doe?” “The Doe Family?” “Jane and John (but not your kids)?”
(We’re putting our website on our save-the-date, which has the info for the babysitters, and we’ll also address the actual invitations to JUST the adults.)
Anyhow, I’m stumped.
Second question: when addressing save-the-dates to people with boyfriends/girlfriends, do we include their names? I’m talking about people who may or may not still be together in six months. Thoughts?
Thanks for the help! I’m strugglin’ here 😉
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Just put the names on the save the date of the people who are invited (so no kids’ names). Don’t put “and guest” on save the dates at all when they are generic plus ones and not known dates/significant others; you can deal with that part when you get to the invitations (“guest” doesn’t need to save any date, because “guest” is not a real person ;).
Post # 4
I would only address the Save-The-Date Cards to the adults since you don’t want children at the actual wedding. Let them visit the website and see the information for childre and childcare.
For couples, I would address the STD to the person in the couple who is actually your friend or relative. Then, when the time comes to mail out actual invitations, include the name of the significant other if they are still together at that time.
Post # 5
For question 1: Just put Jane & John Doe. They can refer to the website for info on their kids.
For question 2: I addressed my Save-The-Date Cards to the people living at that address. So if the bf/gf live together, they got one invite. If they live apart either just one person got the STD (just addressed to them) and we let them know their SO is also invited, or each person got a STD separately.
I did not put “and Guest” on any Save-The-Date Cards, that is for invitations only.
Post # 6
That’s really nice of you to have a babysitter available! We’re just not inviting kids lol. Well I’ll take that back the only kids that are invited are the ones in the wedding. We just put that it would be an ‘adult reception.’ I would hope most people would know what that means. Maybe you could do ‘Adult Recption, Child Care Provided’
Just a thought. As far as your other question if they aren’t married, engaged, or I’m 100% sure that engagement will happen really soon I just put the person’s name + Guest. ex. Ms. Jane Doe & Guest. It probably depends on how long they have been together and how well you know both people in the relationship.
Not saying that is the right way to do it but its the way I’m doing it.
Post # 7
I agree with Spaniel. I addressed our save the dates to the actual people invited. On the invites is where I will list the guests’ name. Like you said, they may not be together in six months. The STD is a placeholder in their calendar, so it’s not necessary to find out guest names, etc. until the invite anyway. As for the kids, just let your website do the talking.