Post # 1
We just got our STD cards in the mail the other day, and I’m in the process of addressing them. For the most part, it’s been very easy, but I have run into a few for which I’m not exactly sure what to do.
In this case, it’s a long time family friend. This woman (I’ll call her “Jane”) has a serious boyfriend who I have never met, am I am unsure if he lives with her or not (though I don’t think so), let’s call him John.
I will also be inviting her children on the same invite. Also, I do not know the boyfriends last name (neither does my Dad, without asking her).
So, do I write:
Ms. Jane smith
Ms. Jane Smith and Family
Ms. Jane smith and John
I’ll add a poll as well. Thanks!
Post # 3
Depending on the formality of your invite you could go with Mr. John Lastname and Ms. Jane Smith.
Or Jane Smith and John Lastname.
The only time you don’t need to list a last name is if the invitation is for a child.
Post # 4
If you don’t know his name, wouldn’t you address it to Ms Jane Smith and guest? and then add the and Family in there, although I wouldn’t know if it would be before or after the guest. Hmm. Good question.
If she’s a good family friend, I suppose you could call her up and ask her 🙂 Tell her you want to invite him and you need his info for the invite. Problem solved.
Post # 5
For the invites, I’ll definitley get his last name. So I’m wondering, for the save the dates would it be rude to NOT include his name? For what it’s worth, I wasn’t going to write out “and guest” for those guests who will be getting unspecified +1’s later on (when formal invites go out) now I’m wondering if it is acceptable to just put her name for now, and when I send out actual invitations in a few months write his name out?
Post # 6
I think that would be fine, as long as it isn’t something where he’d need to be making travel arrangements or something 🙂
I’m running into an issue with my save the dates, only because I won’t know if we’ll have our actual date until much closer to the wedding (due to visa issues) but I need to let out of country relatives know they are invited now so they can start saving up and making plans if they want to come. That’s why I bring up travel arrangements. But I think as long as it’s local, you should be good with what you said, just putting her name and family on it 😉
Post # 7