Post # 1
When sending Save the Dates, do you address them the same way you would the invitation? I.e. if a guest is dating someone, is now the time that I need to find out his last name, or do I just address it to my friend alone and then address it to the both of them for the invitation? Or if a guest is single, but I’m allowing them a plus one, do I need to make that clear on the STDs?
Also, I know if kids over 18 are living at home, you send them a separate invitation– same for STDs?
Post # 3
I addressed my Save the Dates to my friends and did not indicate who would be getting a plus one. Even for couples in serious relationships I only addressed it to the one person, you never know who’s going to break up (in fact one of my BMs did immediately after the Save-The-Date Cards went out).
Post # 4
I agree with LGenz, I addressed the STD to couples (as “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”) or the person with whom I am the closest. My brother has one child in the house over 18 and two that are younger, so I just did “Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family” for them. From my research, it appears as though the etiquette rules for Save-The-Date Cards are a little more fluid than the rules for invitations. The only real rule I found was that be sure your guest list is pretty much final before sending Save-The-Date Cards. While you can always add folks to the invitation list, there is no way to gracefully exclude folks that have received Save-The-Date Cards. I know it sounds obvious, but I’ve seen posts where folks changed venues after their Save-The-Date Cards went out and had to un-invite several folks. Yikes!