Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been working on gathering addresses and such for our Save the Dates. We have some friends and relatives who will be getting married before our date. For example, Ann and Bill will not be married when we send the STD, but they will be when we send our wedding invitation (or, it will be a week or two before they get married). What is the etiquette on addressing the STD’s and the invites? Do I use her new last name, even though it won’t be hers yet, or is it okay to use a different last name on the STD and the invite?
Post # 3
@keepsmiling19: if you know them well enough I would put something cute like ‘The soon to be Mr. and Mrs. Smith’ if you don’t think that’s appropriate I’d put whatever their real last names are at the time you expect them to receive the mail.
Post # 4
I would use whatever last name she would be when you wrote it.
Post # 6
There was a Miss Manners where she said it was inappropriate for a bride to use or be called her future last name before she was officially married, although I think she said this was just based on superstition, similar to how the groom shouldn’t see the bride in the dress beforehand. So I guess if your friend is superstitious or likes to follow those traditions, use her maiden name. But personally, I’d think it’d be so exciting to get my first piece of mail with my future last name on it a week or so before the wedding 🙂