Post # 1
I’ve looked around and wanted to see what the etiquette was for addressing Save the Dates and Invitations for certain circumstances. For instance, I have read all over that any guest over the age of 18 should get their own STD / invite. Ok, that’s fine. BUT – does this count if they live at home? I have a few guests on my list who are well over 18 and currently reside at the home of their parents. Is it wrong to include them on the same STD? What about the invitation? I am guessing that they still get their own, but figured I’d ask. To me, it seems silly to send 3 STDs to the same house (and same for invitation!) but I want to do what is proper…
Post # 2
For my save the dates, I sent 1 to each residence, per last name. So, for my FMIL’s house, there are 3 last names living there.. I sent one to each [So FMIL, FFIL and FSIL got one, FGM and GPA got one, and FGMA got one as well]. If they all had the same last name, I would have just sent 1 with “The ___ Family”.
Every adult will get an invitation, whether they live at home or not.
Post # 3
Adults get their own invitation regardless of their living situation.
Post # 4
My cousins always included me in my parents invitations. I dont know how proper that was, but thats what they did.
Post # 5
For both my sister and cousin both of which still lived at home with no significant other, i just sent one std and one invite like this: Mr. And Mrs. Lastname and Ms. Lastname.
now if they were getting “and guest”, i would have given them their own invite. For the thank yous, i sent individually by card/gift since they gifted separately.