(Closed) Addressing the Invitations

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

There are a lot of great websites on how to do this. I dropped titles and just did first names, personally.

But I also hate Mrs. Joe Shmoe. Hate hate hate. So you are not alone.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Drs. Jon and Jane Smith is “right”.

We are doing John and Jane Smith or Mr. and Mrs. Smith depending on how we address them in person. Or The Smith Family if they have kids that are included. I don’t like Mr and Mrs. John Smith either. I heard/read something that said, “just becausea woman changes her last name, it does not mean she wants to change her first name!” Agreed.

Post # 5
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990 posts
Busy bee

Very good question, a fellow zilla and myself were just thinking about this the other day. We agreed that Jane and John Smith is the best way to go about addressing the envelopes.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I totally agree I hate the whole Mr.& Mrs. John Smith.  I am an independent woman and I have a hard time with that way of addressing married couples.  Just because two people it doesn’t mean that they are 1 individal.  Glad to see I am not the only one who shares these views

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I totally agree I hate the whole Mr.& Mrs. John Smith.  I am an independent woman and I have a hard time with that way of addressing married couples.  Just because two people it doesn’t mean that they are 1 individal.  Glad to see I am not the only one who shares these views

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I kinda feel like if you say “Mrs. Jane and Mr. Jon Smith” it looks like your intentionally putting the woman’s name first to make a point and I don’t necessarily think it should be made on the wedding invite.  Just my opinion though.  I do agree that I don’t like not putting the woman’s name at all so I would say “Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith.”

As for the Doctors I would do the same thing. Dr. John Smith and Dr. Jane Smith”

I will say I did put the woman’s name first when she was the one I knew and had a male guest that would not otherwise be invited if she weren’t.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Are you using one envelope or two? I’m using 2, and writing “Hisname & Hername”on the inside one (though I write them in whichever order sounds best to me) and Mr. & Mrs. Lastname on the outside one. For families I wrote Father & Mother, Child1 & Child2, etc on the inside and “The Lastnames” on the outside. I’ve never liked Mr. &  Mrs. Hisname Lastname, and Mrs. Hername & Mr. Hisname Lastname sounds awkward to me.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t do this for addressing the invitations, but on the actual invitation I hated the idea of only having our dad’s named spelled out and having our moms only listed as Mrs., I had the actual invitation worded as

Mr. & Mrs. Dad’s Firstname & Mom’s Firstname Lastname

I think it’d be fine if you do that for addressing the envelopes, if you want to. I had two envelopes and did the same thing as MeadowyRavine.

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