Addressing Wedding Invites for Police Officer

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’ve never heard of addressing a police officer differently on an invitation. My husband’s uncle is a detective, we didn’t put Detective X on his invite. I’m pretty sure that’s not a thing.

We also skipped the whole Mr/Mrs thing. We just put people’s first and last names.

Post # 3
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Honey bee

It should be Mr.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It’s a work title not a permanent one . That’s a bit different than something like being a doctor or a Sir/Dame, countess, etc which you are forever. If you leave the police force you aren’t still an officer. Outside of work you’re just you. But if you know any retired admirals or presidents then that’s more tricky. 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

My cousin is a police officer and I just addressed his invite as Mr. and Mrs.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

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hikingbride :  This is what we did! So many military people  I didn’t want to screw up so I just did first names. Still not sure if that was appropriate for rank but we didn’t get called out by anyone! 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My father was a police officer (and highly ranked) and he never expected anyone to call him anything other than “Mr. Name” at personal social events. Calling them by their title is definitely not a thing unless they’re in uniform and either 1. on the job or 2. at a formal setting like a promotion recognition or retirement ceremony. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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Allycat00091 :  It’s a non-issue. As a child of cops, we literally never address them by anything other then Mr, Ms, or Mrs. You’re not an officer yourself, no need to use rank.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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Allycat00091 :  i have family and friends in the military and police, and I think i just addressed them as The Does, or The Anonymous Family. Since I was inviting everyone within their family unit.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I agree with PPs. My father is a police officer and he didn’t expect to be called “officer” unless he was on duty. I think “Mr.” is correct etiquette here.

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