Post # 1
I admit it, I’m not exactly the most organized person on earth. Well, I am great at organizing the small things…mp3s on my hard drive, putting my cd collection in order, sorting my beads/jewelry making supplies into new containers every few weeks. But when it comes to the big things, I sometimes struggle. But after all these years I know what tools I need and support/structure I need to not let it interfere with my life too much….but that doesn’t always make it easy.
Now I’m excited about my wedding and love planning it, so I figured my ADHD wouldn’t really show up in all this. Hahaha, how wrong I was! 😉 the fact that this is a very short engagement (proposal 7/6/10, wedding 10/10/10) doesn’t make it easier….but then again it’s like waiting until the last minute to start a term paper. 😉
Thank goodness for planners and checklists, but I’ve noticed some of the little things aren’t on the big checklists. Like how long in advance to pick out your cake server, especially if you want them engraved. 😉
Hmm…maybe when I’ve settled into my role as adhd-housewife (with my soon to be adhd-husband!) and then get my thank you notes done, i will write a wedding planning guide book for brides with adhd or who are organizationally challenged!
as i said, it’s not too stressful so far…i’m sure I drive my mother crazy sometimes. 😉
any other brides out there who find their ADHD making wedding planning a bit more challenging? any tips or tricks you want to share?
Post # 3
I’m lucky in that my ADHD lets me hyperfocus when something’s important and/or interesting to me. If only I could be so organized in everyday life!!! 🙂
I ripped a timeline checklist out of a magazine and posted it on my refrigerator. It helped remind me of the things I hadn’t been thinking about. I also kept to-do lists on my cell phone so I could refer to it. I constantly think “oh, I have to do that!” whenever it’s impossible to actually do it. Then, when I’m out running errands I can never think of what it was I needed to do! Putting it in the phone seriously helped.
Good luck and have fun planning!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2010 - Indian Head Camp, Honesdale Pennsylvania
I have ADHD and yeah…. sometimes it can be a bit of a struggle… like oh, we were supposed to apply for a marriage license? Not too worry though, all of the major things got done, and the things that didn’t get done, just didn’t end up mattering that much.
My biggest help was letting my super organized sister create a timeline for me for the last three weeks. She was amazing.
Post # 5
My Fiance has ADHD, and it’s actually really helped us. I’m super organized, list maniac… he’s mr. crazy imagination and dreamer. Although, he still hasn’t talked to all of his groomsmen. He keeps forgetting!
Post # 6
I have severe ADHD and I can not tolerate any of the medications for it. I am the most disorganized person ever and I love my lab assistants because they organize everything for me at work. But wedding planning was an absolute nightmare and I have no suggestions for you except get a planner if you can afford it!!!
Post # 6
how’d your wedding turn out? did you write the book? any lessons learnt? i’ve got 9 months left to plan, started 3 months ago. So far we’ve booked the venue coz I fell in love with a photo…pretty sure he was just trying to shut me up!! I’ve planned heaps of Pinterest weddings of no use to ours, got heaps of quotes but it takes them too long to reply and by the time they do I get bamboozled as to which one they are. I’ve decided florists are behind bankruptcy, photographers cost more than a car and I’m crap at budgeting! I did by a dress off eBay. I don’t like it (never did) and it doesn’t fit me but it was only $50! I’m going to fix it, make it pretty & sell it. There’s so much to do but so much to choose from. I’m in way over my head…