(Closed) adjusting to sleeping well in 1 bed

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would second separate blankets like @jedcaj mentioned. I love being under a warm comforter in a cool room, and he gets way too hot. So I still use the twin-sized comforter I used in college, while he uses a blanket. Even when it’s warm, we will each use separate blankets. It’s nice not having to fight over the covers, especially because he likes to wrap himself up like a mummy when he sleeps. Strange, I know.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

we’ve been married for almost two months and we’re finally past the adjustment of sleeping together.  we use to smack each other with our arms and hit one anothers legs.  although we’re not cuddlers like many of you. 

on our honeymoon we slept in a King for a few weeks and that just seemed lonely as we were always so far away from one another.  Queen suited us better and is what we have at home. so far so good, just gotta keep it up now!

Post # 19
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Busy bee

My Boyfriend or Best Friend have been living together for about 1.5 years. In the beginning it was hard for me because I need complete silence and he snores sometimes. LOL

But as time has gone by I dont even hear it now.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Funnily enough we seem to sleep really well together. Sure, sometimes I’m warm and he isn’t and he creeps into the middle of the bed and I get all of >< that much space to sleep but what I do now is just push him over. We also have a standing fan in the room so when it does get stupidly hot it gives us both some relief. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We sleep pretty well together.  The only pet peeve is that he is a really heavy sleeper, and I am a fairly light sleeper.  So when the cat is acting up at 3 or 4 am, I am the one who gets up to kick him out of the bedroom. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

Just wanted to chime in — It’s very unconventional but my husband and I sleep in separate bedrooms.  We honestly love it, and our marriage (and sex life) are great.  We sleep better, don’t wake eachother up when we keep different hours, and generally just like it much better!  I know it’s not for most, but just wanted to put that option out there.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@zeynokiz: I completely agree about getting a new mattress. We got a brand new queen size mattress when we got married, and let me tell you, that thing is so soft and comfortable that you almost fall asleep just looking at it!

We invested in nice down pillows, a new down comforter and a pillowtop mattress, and it makes all the difference in the world. Before that, I was sleeping on an old, hard mattress and had trouble sleeping almost every night (and that was on my own). I was scared that when I started sharing a bed with him, I’d never sleep, but now I realize that I was just never comfortable when I was sleeping on that old mattress.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

How sweet that he cuddles you in the middle of the night!

My husband and I were married in March and lived together since the previous January.  We stayed over each other’s places many times previously, and our full-sized beds put us far too close to get any kind of good sleep.  When we moved in together we bought a king-sized bed.  Most nights, I have to peek over to see if he’s even there!  We hardly even bump in the night.

Awesome.  We sleep like babies most nights.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club

YES!  We’ve lived together for 2 years and we still have problems with this.  It’s almost like a special treat when one of us gets the whole bed to ourselves.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Its been nearly three months, and my husband and I are finally getting a solid night’s sleep. I move around like crazy in my sleep (restless legs syndrome), and he just takes up a lot of space. We spent our honeymoon adjusting to a king sized bed, which was wonderful, and then came home to our queen…definitely took several nights of me relocating to the couch before I adjusted. Now he sleeps so soundly that my movements don’t bother him, and I just take up as much space as I need to before he gives me a shove.

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think fans really help. Our biggest problem was always being too hot with another person in bed and having a ceiling fan is phenominal. we have it on every night (even in winter) and it makes us so happy 🙂 

re: him chasing you…. be honest with him! He might not be able to help it if he naturally does that in his sleep, but if you keep making him move back he’ll eventually get used to it and stop doing it. 

We didn’t really have that problem bc neither of us are cuddlers at all. we cuddle, then roll away. and we like it that way lol. but i think you can kind of train the way you sleep 🙂

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You will adjust.  I just push him over if I need too.  I also have two chihuahuas that sleep right on my legs.  You will get used to it!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

I have to say yes.. you will get used to it.. But now that we have a king size, I’m not sure I could go back! It’s difficult at first but I shared a queen sized bed w/ a 6’3″ guy for 2 years.. wasn’t easy at first but over time, it just felt natural.

If you are really having long term problems and don’t feel you’ll adjust to it soon, is there some kind of return policy on your queen that you could upgrade to a king??Or, you could always try to sell it to upgrade to a king, since it’s almost new, you could prob get a good amount of your $ back if not all of it.

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