(Closed) Adopting

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Do you plan to adopt?
    Yes : (29 votes)
    50 %
    No : (29 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 2
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I’ve always wanted to adpot, my Fiance does not. If we have issues conceiving when the time comes we will go down every path that would allow us to have a biological child. But we have agreed that if we are absolutely not able to have kids ourselves, that we would adopt. 🙂 Either way I’ll be happy!

    Post # 3
    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Maybe? We’re not sure we can have biological children, but we would like to become parents.

    Post # 4
    6927 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    MrsWoods47:  Even if we can have our own children, we feel pretty strongly about adopting kids. For me it’s not just an option in case we cannot have kids, but one even if we can. Actually, I debate whether it will be best to do adopt before having our own children or after. I see adoption as an act to help other kids, not to help my situation.

    Post # 5
    5543 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Yep. We want to adopt,  one who will probably be older if we can have a biological child (so far not as easy for us as some people) and two if not. If we can’t have a biological  then we will look into infant adoption first then one from the foster care system. Selfishly I want to be able to have a bitty baby to dress up and decorate for and all that jazz. 

    Post # 6
    1451 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yep.  My husband and I are researching adoption right now and working on our fertility problems at the same time.

    Post # 7
    2606 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    It took Darling Husband and I two years of trying to conceive, so I did look into adoption.  My brother was adopted, (and my parents did foster care for years), as was one of my good friends.  However, our state’s adoption laws pretty much suck, so I don’t think I would be able to put myself through that.

    Post # 8
    3302 posts
    Sugar bee

    No.  This is a topic that we have done a lot of research into, and have been very close to doing.  But ultimately we decided not to.

    1) It is very expensive

    2) It is very invaisive.  The home study is a very personal, dig into everything that you have ever had in your life and then picks them apart.  Oh you don’t have a great relationship with your own family?  Strike against you.  You once smoked pot at a party in highschool?  Strike against you. 

    3) It is very lengthy, and very emotionally taxing. There is also no guarantee.  No matter how close you are, no matter what you have done to that point.  If its in the window, the mother can change her mind.  Some places have a long window for that to happen.

    4) IT is very, very, expensive.

    5) There aren’t as many babies out there as everyone thinks.  If you want an older child or one with special needs, the wait will be much less.  But if you want an infant it is difficult to find one.

    I’m glad that many kids do find homes, however after everything else, it’s not the path for us.

    Post # 10
    6927 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    MrsWoods47:  Thanks! I agree there are many kids (small or old) out there in need of a home, and what better place than the one we can provide 🙂

    Post # 11
    7897 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have 2 biological children. I hope to do foster care when they are grown. I want to make sure I get my kids raised to be decent people before I do any damage to anyone else’s (kidding!). And then I would like to have older children, maybe a sibling set that is harder to place.

    Post # 12
    185 posts
    Blushing bee

    he was adopted, so it’s something close to his heart. we’ve discussed domestic adoption (not international, we’d only do domestic) as an option, but we’d like at least one biological child before we adopt.

    Post # 13
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I really want to adopt; Fiance isn’t as into the idea, so we’ll see!

    Post # 14
    2942 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    andielovesj:  I would just like to say to all of yous points, a lot of reproductive procedures can be just as invasive, time and monetarily taxing as adoption.  I am not saying adoption is for everyone, just that the other options for having children can be equally taxing.  I think IVF sounds scarier and more invasive to me as it involves a medical procedure, but that is my hang up, and not everyone’s.  

    If Darling Husband and I can’t naturally, we will look into adoption.  We are still a long way off from that option, so right now it is just a thought. 

    Post # 15
    437 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve always felt really strongly about adoption. I was adopted and I’ve always known that I would want to adopt as well! 

    Fiance and I are actually starting to look into it now 🙂


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