Post # 1
I know that I would like to adopt or foster (alone or with a partner) a child once I have my career in order (in 3-5 years probably).
Trouble is: I have severe scoliosis and am not supposed to lift more than 15-20 lbs.
How will this limit me in my choices?
My friend has a 30 lb 2 year old and says she has to lift her all the time…but is that a must? Can’t the kid just get into a stroller or walk by herself?
Thanks in advance for your advice Bees!
Post # 2
Seriously bee first of all the best person to actually advise you on anything medical is your doctor, not a random wedding forum, and I suggest you seek counseling while you are at it, the sheer number of scoliosis posts you make is insane.
Post # 3
zzar45 : I’ve talked to doctors and been in counseling. Sadly scoliosis is just a part of my life and if the posts make people uncomfortable I will not post more. Doctors told me the weight limit for me to lift but I wanted to hear from Bees who actually have small children as to whether they really need to be lifted. Thank you again for letting me know that posts about scoliosis are not welcome, I was not aware of this.
Post # 4
Hi Hun, I don’t have children so I can’t be much however I do have a long term medical condition which effects my life daily, so I just wanted to say. I get why you need to ask these kind of questions and I’m sorry not everyone is so understanding.
To try any answer your question. In my limited experience with my nephews. Two year olds to require a fair amount of lifting. Not just for getting in a stroller, but also for comfort, and cuddles. A tired two year old won’t get themselves in a stroller or walk they need lifting.
Talk to your doctor about having a child and how your condition will change over time, and how it will limit you in the future, or if there is any current or new research into it or making it better.(I’m sorry I know very little about scoliosis) Make sure you have a full insight in what to expect in the future for your own health first and foremost.
Then talk to some fostering agencies, or people who foster to see what it’s like. I would definitely in your position foster first before considering adoption as it will be helping children who need it while also giving you hands on experience.
Post # 5
I will go ahead and close this post as I did not know questions relating to medical conditions are off limits, even when they relate to raising children.
Thank you for the replies and again my apologies.