(Closed) Adoption – How long did it take you to adopt?

posted 3 years ago in Adoption & Surrogacy
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Edson Keith Mansion

I see adoptions close up through the state in less than a year pretty often. I don’t know how adoptions work through specific agencies or adopting from out of the country, though. Following this thread because I’d also be interested to hear about it.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

My ex husband and I adopted- we started our home study and classes in August. We were approved and offically “waiting” the first part of December, and we took home our daughter a month later. So from start to finish it took about 5 months. Her adoption was finalized 9 months later.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

janeblack :  Do you want to adopt in the States, or from somewhere foreign (assuming you live in the States)? My sister, in the U.S. just adopted from the Ukraine – I think the whole process took under a year and a half, but required several trips there O.O

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have friends who adopted through the foster system and it was about 6 months. A couple I know who did private infant adoption took 2 years. Adopting through foster care is generally a shorter and cheaper process. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I adopted through the foster care system as a a single parent.  I had my oldest daughter first which I got at 9 months old.  Her biological parents then gave birth to another daughter which I got at 3 weeks old. Parents had her for the first 3 weeks.  They actually attempted to run away with her.  They had til 5pm on that day to turn her over to CPS before they were charged.  I adopted both girls within 8 months.  Keep in mind that during the 9 months I could have lost both girls if the parents had followed the program to get the girls back.  The parents finally decided to relinquish custody midway.  Lucky for me that I ended up with the most amazing daughters.  This was in 2009 so I could be giving old information.  I would recommend you contact your local agency that approves the foster parents since CPS will go to them when a foster family is needed.  

ETA:  I also fostered the 3rd sibling twice.   She remains in the father’s custody.  He finally decided to get his act together before he lost the 3rd child. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

LVtennisgirl80 :  do you mind if I ask if this was from foster care? I thought most other adoptions took much longer??

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

In Australia adoptions take years and years and sometimes thousands of dollars :/ I wish it was easier. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

janeblack :  Have you done research on adopting older children? There are often threads on DCUM (DC Urban Moms) about adoption. Andit has come up the difficulty in older adoptions. And agencies are reluctant to talk about the issues. So please talk to families who have done older adoptions and the challenges they faced. Not that you (or anyone) should stay away from older adoptions. I think if that is what your heart says you should do, then go for it.But you want to go into it with your eyes open and fully understanding everythig that it entails.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

janeblack :  I love that you want to adopt older kids! The world needs more people like you. Thank you. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

janeblack :  agree with KoiKove  – my aunt and uncle adopted older kids through foster care and they were so pleased that they had talked to people who had done the same first. They felt better prepared for the challenges, but also had guidance on managing the bureaucracy of the system. They also found a support group, which was very helpful later on. They are so happy that they adopted older children, but found that resources are invaluable before, during, and after the adoption process. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

janeblack :  I’m glad you took my comment in the spirit it was given. And given your circumstances (I’m so sorry you that happened to you), you are in perfect position to do an older adoption. The child (or children)  who becomes your family is going to be very lucky 🙂 

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