Post # 1
DHs cousins, who live very close to us are finding out this week if they get to adopt the sibling group of 3, kids from 2-4 years old. They have been waiting on this for a long time and I thought that some kind of party for them, like a shower maybe since they were really only planning on ONE kid and now this oppritunity has come up for this group and so I don’t know how much “stuff” they have. It isn’t quite like a baby with needing bottles and bibs but they will need clothes, toys, all that kind of stuff. How should I go about it? I guess techincally she is Darling Husband second cousin, her mom is MILs first cousin, so would it be weird for me to put something like this together for them? Anyone have ideas or tips?
Post # 3
Not at all weird. I think adoption showers are perfectly normal and necessary. It’s still a childentering their lives even if not birthed by them.
Post # 4
I don’t think it is weird at all and a lovely idea. I think it is really thoughtful and I don’t have any “tips” only somehow planning/organizing the gift giving so the gifts are evenly distributed for the three children (i.e. not everyone buying for one of the kids)
Post # 5
@Amberrw: My biggest thing is, lots of baby shower stuff is like…diapers and bibs and bottles and that kind of stuff. So I guess it would be more birthday present type stuff for the kids? Obviously I wouldn’t be dictating presents reguardless but I just wasnt sure how it would work exactly with them all being toddlers.
Post # 6
I think this sounds like a great idea and it’s really sweet for you to suggest it. Can you ask the parents to make a registry of things they’ll need for the kid? Birthday present type stuff sounds good, but the parents may also need to some bigger or practical things
Post # 7
@msfahrenheit: That is a good idea too! Thanks
Post # 8
I think this is a wonderful idea!
I would find out their sexes and ages and provide that information in the invitation. People will know what to do from there.
Post # 9
I think it is a fabulous idea. They will need so much stuff and hey- not only new babies deserve to be celebrated right? These kiddos deserve it too 🙂
Post # 10
My mother was just at an adoption shower. The baby is 9mos old so they just got age appropriate items. I think it’s a great idea to show one!
Post # 11
That’s so exciting! I would be so flattered if I was them.
I agree finding out sizes and things like that would be important.
Post # 12
When my aunt adopted her son, we threw her a book shower. A shower should be about showing your love and support for the addition to a family and doing a shower where everyone brought books for him (age appropriate) helped her build him a little library and feel supported by her friends and family. Just make sure the friends/family know how old the kids are so that gifts can be appropriate!
Post # 13
That’s a very nice idea.Go for it.
Post # 14
great idea!! and I think putting the kids genders and ages in the invite is a good idea, like the PP said people will know what to do.
Post # 16
@msfahrenheit: That’s a wonderful idea.
You and Mother-In-Law can plan the party and have her register for 10 items or so per child. Send out the ages and sex of the children in the invitation.