(Closed) Adoption…

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Talk to a lawyer.

Post # 4
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have several friends in the state of Texas who did this…but not sure about your state.  Basically the “sperm donor” had to give up his rights to the child.  I personally know 1 couple that it worked for, another couple that it didn’t (father was stubborn), and another that didn’t know he had a 10yo until the grandparents wanted to adopt their granddaughter.  He was married with 2 kids, the woman lied to him saying it wasn’t his…she hooked up w/ 2 other guys at the same time.  By signing it, he waived any back child support…they were going after their daughter for that.  All he had to do was pay her health insurance which wasn’t extra b/c he had a family plan.

Post # 6
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

It might depend on whether the father’s name is on the birth certificate.  Maybe.

Post # 8
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ohhh, you’ll probably want to get an attorney involved in that.  I actually was going through an adoption in the state of Texas a while ago…birth mother had one already and was only 17 when she got pregnant with #2.  The father refused to sign away his rights which upset her b/c she felt “forced” to keep the baby she didn’t want. 

We looked into abandonment b/c he had not supported her at all during her pregnancy….he was 18 at the time.  Our attorney told us to prove abandonment it was a minimum of 2 years no child support, etc. so the baby would be around 14 months before we could start that process.  So in the end, she was forced to keep baby #2 and called me a year later when she was expecting #3.  Get a good lawyer…they are worth it and mine saved me a lot of emotional heartbreak. 

Post # 11
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You need a lawyer. The father would have to sign away his rights in order for your Fiance to adopt her. You do not have to be married for him to do so, but it would make sense to.

Post # 12
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have no experience but I see no harm talking to lawyer early.  Get you two prepared early is always a good thing, IMO.  Maybe lawyer will have some good suggestions how to do so to minimize the headaches on your end, and maybe your little girl’s too…


Good luck!

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