Post # 1
Clearly this isn’t happening for a while, but my mom is super excited and already asking my opinion on this. My parents live on the west coast and my mom is planning on flying to the northeast for a weekend to host one for us in the town we live in. My Mother-In-Law is a sweetheart who is super excited as well and they’re close since Darling Husband and I started dating – Mother-In-Law lives closer to us so she’ll be helping my mom with the logistics but it’s the first grandchild for both sides and it’s been a while since anyone has thrown or attended a shower, so they were asking what kind of timeline to give them and whether to do a holiday weekend or just a Saturday or Sunday afternoon.
They brought up the fact that family members will want to get us a lot of bigger gifts so earlier might be better, since we’re the kind of couple who would go out and buy everything for the nursery before the baby arrives (we are obviously not expecting anyone to get us big ticket items but our families are generally very generous with events so they do have a point)
They also asked if we wanted it co-ed / with kids / catered at Mother-In-Law home or at a private room in a restaurant.
I’m thinking about 2 months before my 10/29 due date? Have any of you bees wanted to do it earlier or later and why?
I’m thinking backyard or a casual outdoor space of a restaurant, co-ed and kid-friendly since almost all our friends are married or engaged and a bunch of them have well-behaved kids.
Post # 2
I think 2-3 months before due date sounds great. I wouldn’t do a holiday weekend, as you might end up with many regrets due to other plans.
It’s so awesome your moms can work together to throw you guys an awesome shower!
Post # 3
2-3 months is a good amount of time before the baby is due. And I agree that a regular Saturday or Sunday would be better then a holiday.
Post # 4
I know everything about my shower because my mother and grandmother who are throwing it firmly believe you “shouldn’t surprise a pregnant lady” let alone me who will be almost 36 weeks when it occurs.
We’ve gone out and bought big ticket items (stroller and all nursery decor) since I would never expect someone to buy those, but per pushes, I put some “higher ticket items” on the registry because apparently people like buying those things, even if it makes me uncomfortable. Our registry ended up having a good range in every price point, as well as wiggle room for say clothes and such so people can pick out what they want.
I view 2 months before as a good time to have it. The only reason my family waited is because birthdays, holidays, spring/school vacations, etc. Plus northeast weather is still acting up and we have people coming in from out of town.
Post # 5
I think that’s sweet! My mom and sister were both chomping at the bit to start planning my shower! I think my mom had the place booked by the time I was 12 weeks lol We knew we wanted a Saturday afternoon in July, things book quickly, so may as well book early & get the space we want! My shower is on 7/11 and my due date is 9/2.. so I’ll be around 32w. I think that’s a good time, it’s not too far out from the due date but it’s not too close where you’re overly huge and uncomfortable. My shower will be ladies/adult only, it’ll be outside on a patio (weather permitting) at a nice (but casual) restaurant.. that’s exactly what I wanted! I was very involved in my wedding shower, so I told them I don’t want to know much about this one! Though I do know the theme is Mommy to Bee, because I suggested it 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks all! I feel really blessed and am very grateful to have parents and in-laws who are so invested in this little nugget even before he/she arrives!
I’m leaving the details up to them (they’re really good at event planning so I’m not worried). I’ll probably just suggest any weekend say in August and my only request would be that no games be played (they make me cringe)
They also told us they’ve both offered to chip in and help out around the house after he/she arrives and take turns looking after the kid after I go back to work until we’re ready to send him/her to preschool. I told them that alone is a huge gift! The cost of childcare here is insane and knowing that our child will always be with someone we trust is priceless. I’m so grateful.
Post # 7
I did mine two months early. My brothers wedding was right after my due date, so I wanted my shower early so it didn’t interfere with SILs bridal shower and bachelorette. I also didn’t want to overload the guests, since many were invited to all the events.
I liked the extra time. I had enough time to sort everything, do returns, and have the nursery in order. I was also feeling a lot better at 7 months than I did at 9+ , so it worked well.
I think if you have lots of out of towners, you should just do it when it’s most convenient for those that want to travel to be there, others will understand.
Post # 8
Sounds fun and your mom and mother in law sound very sweet! I would just say do it closer to 2 months from the due date instead of 3, since everyone loves to see a big baby belly. The friend hosting my shower planned mine for when I was 28 weeks (it was so early to accommodate a lot of our friends who leave town for the summer) and I really wasn’t even showing that much (I mean I felt huge, to me, but I wasn’t). It’s a minor thing, but since my mom flew in for the shower and then didnt come again until my baby was born she never got to see my big belly! Anyway, congrats to you!
Post # 9
We are doing co-Ed also, my sweet friend offered to host. She has a small condo so we might even have it in our backyard! Or a park lodge or something similar-whatever she wants to do is good with me!
Post # 10
2 months before sounds reasonable to me!