Post # 1
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Helper bee
I know i have seen a post about this before but can’t seem to find it.
I am about to start addressing my save the dates. Do I need to put and guest on these or wait to do that when I send the actual invitations?
If we don’t put and guest on these, what do I do if there is a couple we are inviting (the guy is my fiance’s former roommate), they have been together for years – but honestly I really don’t like his girlfriend and in the past have butted heads. Do I send a separate save the date to her too, or just to him??
What about serious couples….do you give them each a save the date or just send to one with both names???
Thanks for your help!!!
Post # 3
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Worker bee
I would say no and guest on the STD, you can wait until the invite.
We sent serious couples one std with both names on it, but I’m not sure if that is correct.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
For couples, we just sent one STD — and will do the same with invites. For plus-ones, I think you can wait to add "and guest" (but go for the name whenever possible) until you send out the invitations.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
we did the same thing. for Save-The-Date Cards we sent to the person invited (or Mr and Mrs if they were married) and added "and guest" on the invitation envelopes.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I agree with the Bees, wait until the invite to do the plus one. My fiance’s friends (he’s a few years older than me, so all of his friends are getting married while mine are ring shopping) send him save the dates with both his name and my name on there. A couple of them have done that–even the friends of his from out of town I’ve only met once or twice–and it makes me feel acknowledged, so I think it works nicely. Not that it’s all about me feeling acknowledged, but I think it’s very thoughtful of them.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
We did put "and guest" on our Save-The-Date Cards. Its not an Emily Post must – but the STD is really for the out of towners and we felt they needed to know that they could bring a guest when they started looking at flights etc.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I agree wait until the actual invitation. I’m not putting them on the STD’s.
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