Post # 1
I am having a very intimate destination wedding in South Lake Tahoe spring 2013. Guests will be made up of immediate family and two (maybe three) friends. We are very non-traditional and don’t care much for the “maid of honor” and “best groomsmen” titles. With that being said, our two best friends (and the two friends that are for sure coming) are male and female. We aren’t having bridesmaids/groomsmen.
To involve them in the wedding I thought it would be cool if my best girlfriend was the “flower girl”, tossing flower petals down the isle and would be standing beside me at the altar, and our best guy friend could be the “ring bearer”, and come down the aisle at the appropriate time, stand next to Fiance and give us the rings.
Thoughts?? Honesty please!!!!!!
Post # 3
Totally amazing! I am having a child-free wedding and I might just steal that idea.
Post # 4
I’m not a fan of adults performing these tasks. It’s just not my thing, no matter how far from traditional one is trying to be.
Post # 5
I dont understand why this isnt just called the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man?
Post # 6
@BrookieCookie9: Don’t want to call them that 🙂
Post # 7
I think it’s great! I’m hoping to have my teenage cousins be Flower Ladies.
Post # 8
I didn’t think I’d like this idea as a read the title, but after reading your post I thinkit sounds really cute!!
Post # 9
A good friend of mine made a childhood pact with her two brothers that they could be the “candy boys at her wedding.
Sure enough, in their mid-thirties, her two brothers heralded their sisters’ arrival by throwing candy to all of us.
It was freakin’ awesome.
Post # 10
I’m having my 17yo brother as the ring bearer and 19yo cousin as my flower girl. I think its a cute idea 😀
Post # 11
you can call them whatever you want, but the basic is still the same. Your maid of honor will double as your flower girl, and your best man will double as ring bearer. Usually, the ringbearer is not given the real rings. Usually, at least in my area, the best man holds the real rings anyway, so what you are doing is not too far from the norm, except for the Maid/Matron of Honor tossing petals. Idk, i just think you are overthinking it…
Post # 12
Love the idea but not too keen on calling an adult a “flower girl” or “ring bearer.”
Post # 13
@honeygoldbee: Calling them “adult flower girl/ring bearer” etc sounds terrible. Refer to them as attendants if you dont want to use MOH/BM
Post # 14
At first I thought no, but the way you explained it made me reconsider. I think the roles they will be doing is fine (I’m not sure I’d have her toss petals just carry a bouquet) but I’m cool with the adult ring bearer – my 2 year old ring bearer will NOT be carrying any rings (the best man will). I’m not sure if I would label them as Flower Girl and Ring Bearer though – it seems a bit infantalizing. As long as they wouldn’t be offended by being FG/RB then the concept is cool to me!
Post # 15
I would just think that you were having your Maid/Matron of Honor toss petals. It would never occur to me that these people are adult flower girl/ring bearer…it seems kind of like you are getting hung up on a technicality, here. But, if you want 2 adult attendants to toss petals & carry the rings, then go for it.
Post # 16
I think if you did the whole “flower girl” thing like this it would be even better.