(Closed) Adult movies

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Kacey23:  Anything that would purposefully cause lust is most definitely not advised for a couple wanting to live for or close to Christ. Tbh this type of “screening” most definitely goes beyond “adult movies” though with how off the moral compass of todays culture is.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not a Christian, just going to put that on the table. I’m an Atheist, so you’re welcome to take my opinion as it is.

Morally, I think that anything can be immoral when taken out of context or used in an inappropriate way. The way I see pornography or any sort of adult film is that it does inspire lust, but in one another. Is it really so wrong to lust after your partner? I don’t know if the people watching said videos are lusting after the people making them, but I can only speak from experience — my husband and I don’t desire those people. After watching something like that, we only want each other. I don’t know what’s going on in his head, but in mine, it’s only of him. I just think everything needs to be used within moderation and with the right context behind it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Hyperventilate:  Biblically speaking you can definitely lust after your spouse in a way that would be sinful. It’s taking lust, or desire, and letting it be’become lust, as in a greedy self serving want. The second can be damaging and is often the thought/emotions associated with desires that come from things like pornography. The intent, in many cases, isn’t about strengthening the intimacy between you & your spouse BUT about “getting your own” or fulfilling your fantasy without regard to honoring your spouse.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@runsyellowlites:  But unless you’re running through somebody’s head, you have no idea if their lust is the lust to honor their spouse.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Hyperventilate:  You’re right. My perspective comes from talking to other men & my Darling Husband about their view of pornography, the thoughts that it ensues, and how they relate it to their spouses (whether it does/doesn’t have affect on how they see them).

I know I’ve never met/talked to a man that said pornography brought honor their marriage, themselves, or their spouse…. lol

Since we’re coming from different ends of the worldview specturm I trust that we wouldn’t see eye to eye on the topic though. =)

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@runsyellowlites:  Well, I can’t say porn has brought “honor” to my marriage, but it definitely has brought more love and intensity. I can’t speak for my husband because truthfully, being in his head would be kind of scary, but when we’re lusting for each other, I definitely have him in mind. Like I said, if something is done with the “proper” context behind it, I think some of the sterotypical immorality can be done away with.

However, I feel that first and foremost, with no regards to religion, or faith, or marriage, or family… no one should do anything they’re not comfortable with. Once you establish what you’re comfortable with, I think it’s a good idea to open conversation about these kinds of things if you’re interested in them.

I never expected you to see from my point of view, I just wanted to pipe up and say that it doesn’t have to be bad and wicked and sinful, as long as both are in the right mindset.

To each their own, at the very bottom line!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Hyperventilate:  I most definitely agree with the not doing anything or forcing anything your spouse wouldn’t be comfortable with as there is scripture that speaks specifically on this… pretty much as long as your heart is to hold in high regard the others heart if you wanna swing from the chandelier then go at it (short of sharing the bed via physically or mentally)!

The “to each their own” though is incredibly contradicting to what following Christ means as lined out by His teachings in scripture. Lots of Christians miss this part though. =/

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The highest connection between a husband and wife is the spiritual one – to be always reaching for, and seeking to express, the divine qualities of understanding, patience, thoughtfulness and unconditional love.

This also holds true for the intimate lives of a married couple, in which the joys of communing physically bring them closer together, and thus better able to embrace their mutual quest for their spiritual evolution.

So, the question to ask yourself is not whether it is “wrong” to watch pornography with your husband, because there are no black and white answers. Instead, ponder whether doing so is a positive step in growing together spiritually, or whether it detracts from that goal. That might be different for every couple.

But to me, the biggest issue is the way pornography so often objectifies and degrades women. If a couple “needs” to, or enjoys, watching women being dehumanized in order to be sexually stimulated, then I would think that is not supportive of the higher goals of a spiritual marriage.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I honestly believe that adult movies (though seemingly helpful in ‘boosting’ intimacy and maybe sex drive) are immoral in that you are watching fornicators and people disrespecting the  holy act of sex. Those people aren’t married and engage in ilicit acts of sex according to God’s word. The bible instructs us to flee from such incidents. We are clearly taught in Proverbs not to put up with the evil man of destruction as this will destruct us too. Its almost like saying i will just sit in a strip club and drink ice tea, I won’t be watching the strippers oh no i am a good person. Lets just stay away from such. Pray to God for inspiring sex. He created it, so he knows the most exhilerating ways of having it

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