Post # 1
we decided to have an adult only reception we are paying for a full topshelf open bar and both our fathers have passed away his just 2 months ago i wanted to postpone the wedding out of respect but my fiances mother wanted to continue with it but ne way we are paying for everything ourselves we have 4 kids of pur own and dont want to pay for children to eat a 40 dollar meal is that rude or is it ok to ad adult only reception on the rsvps?
Post # 3
Adult only receptions are very common, I would address the envelope to whomever you are inviting and then on the Rsvp say – ___ seats have been reserved in your honor. Then you fill in the number you are inviting and then you can say – ___ accept or ___ decline. Then they know only, say 2, seats have been reserved and not additional for the kiddos.
Post # 4
I am having adults only as well!!! Some people love watching the rugrats run around but I have worked in the industry and really they are such a PAIN! Parents don’t watch them and theyrun out on the dance floor during your first dance. My fiance’s family was shocked I didn’t want their children at the reception but I didn’t bat an eyelash when I heard some people may not show up. I said that’s fine because this reception is at the best hotel in MN with an open bar. It saves me money =)
Anyways, I will be writing Adults only on invitations. My wedding is going to be a great time for family and friends. it’s not a kid-friendly environment and the parents should enjoy a night out!!!
Post # 5
We had “adults only please” printed on our invitations and I have already had 3 people ask if their kids could come?????????????????????????????
Post # 6
Adult only receptions are common and I can see why people do them. I have a 4 year old and I’ve learned that I do not have fun at weddings with her there. I’m not one of those parents that just let their kids run around. So it’s very hard when other parents do it and she wants to run around with the other kids.
So, no more weddings for her until she is like 7. lol Well, except our wedding, but she will be surrounded by family.
Post # 7
@Miss Tattoo: Thank you! I love parents like you =) I totally get kids get crazy excited at weddings, there’s a lot going on but then the parent has the energizer bunny running around trying to get a kiddie cocktail and attack the candy bar.
@specialklove: Maybe the please made people think it was an option. 😉 Even the most black-and-white invitations saying NO KIDS ALLOWED would leave some people to ask if they can bring their kids. Just do what I do and say I’m sorry this isn’t a kid-friendly reception/environment and I am not letting anyone bring their children.
Post # 8
I would maybe put that its adult only, but like others have said, you will get people who ask if their kids can come. Just be consistent, tell them no, and if they say well then they can’ come, then tell them you respect their decision, and are sorry they won’t be able to attend
Post # 9
I am having an adult only wedding and reception. I have a budget of $10,000 for everything, and having children there would add to this cost. I don’t think its rude and feel that gguests should respect this decision.
Post # 10
Adult only weddings are becoming increasingly common. Our ceremony is child-free but we are providing childcare. The reception (a luncheon) will be family-friendly.
I like the invitation wording that tksjewelry suggested very much. It gets the point across without being rude.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We’re having an adult only affair, with the exception of immediate family (our DS and my nephew are the only kids in our immediate family, so it’s pretty easy to draw theline). We notified everyone by word-of-mouth rather than putting it on the invitation. All of our friends were super understanding and accomodating. It worked for our small guest list, but it may not be practical for a larger one.
Post # 12
We are having an “adult only” wedding too. The word spread and most everyone has already reserved their babysitters for the children. We only had 1 RSVP come back so far with a sticky note on it trying to add the children. But that’s a whole other post… We did what they recommend and wrote in the names of exactly who was invited on the RSVP and said so many spots are reserved for you. It’s worked out fairly well as we are splitting the cost of the wedding with our parents. We are at a point in our lives where pretty much all of our friends are married and have children already and that would have pretty much doubled the guest list size. We just couldnt’ afford it and plus this will give our friends an “adult” night out. So don’t feel bad most people nowadays understand this is an expensive affair no matter how you look at it and they understand.
Post # 13
@tksjewelry: We did this as a polite way to make it crystal clear who is invited. Still had someone say, “Hey, you guys wrote that 2 are invited, but there’s three of us…” Well then, genius, who do you think is not invited – you, your wife, or your three year old neither of us has ever even met? Ugh, people.
Post # 14
Kids don’t like weddings. Kids don’t like weddings. Kids don’t like weddings. I never enjoyed weddings as a child and I can’t imagine ANY of the children in my family do either.
I have 61 under 18 members in both sides of the family. 61! That’s 61 kids who probably won’t eat their dinner and 61 kids running around being bored.
My Mom mentioned to my aunt that it’s going to be an adult-only wedding/reception. My aunt ignorantly asks “does that mean Christopher can’t go?” Christpher is 14… What does adult-only mean to you? Hellllloooooo!
Its frustrating but you will get those typed of remarks and questions and comments.
Post # 15
We are doing an “Adult Cocktail Reception” that is how I worded it on the invite. We will have our nieces there, they are in the wedding. And I have made two exceptions for a family member and friend with babies (one traveling from out of state and the other whose little one will be only a few weeks old).