(Closed) Adult only reception HELP

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would call Grandma and The Aunt and explain the situation saying that due to budgetary/venue constraints you had to cut it off somewhere and decided to make the cut-off at age 18 and older!

Stand your ground – it will pass!

Post # 4
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with FutureMrsMartin, they will get over it. It’s your day! Good Luck!

 

Post # 5
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That can be really challenging.  Definitely make a decision and stick to it.  

Let me do caution though that if you choose to make an issue of it (and not let the 16 yo relative come), it can potentially cause family problems later.  My uncle got married when I was 17.  I was in college and wasn’t invited to the reception because I wasn’t 18 (my birthday was in less than 2 weeks).  We found out that other teens under the age of 18 were invited on her side of the family.  It definitely didn’t make me feel too great :/  My mom has had an issue with this for the past 5+ years and it has really hurt their relationship….

Edit: if the grandmother tried to bring a 7 year of kid I would have an issue with it.  Kids act up, make a scene, etc.  A 16 year old… eh not so much.  BUT – you have to make a decision that YOU are comfortable and happy with!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am having an adult only reception as well.  I am inviting my cousins, but none of their children, regardless of age. If my grandmother was bringing one of them as a guest, then I would just roll with it.  That’s Grandma’s decision, not yours.  My grandmothers are dead, but I sure as heck wouldn’t pick a fight with them over this one…

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think you should frame it as a budgetary constraint.  It’s pretty clear that Grandma used her +1 so you couldn’t use that excuse.  It’s not like they added an uninvited guest.  I would tell them you and your fiance don’t want kids at the reception and you had to draw the line somewhere.  And since you’re not allowing cousins on your side under 18 to come, you can’t allow FI’s cousins under 18 either.

If Fiance is not close to his grandma or aunt, can you delegate to FMIL?

Post # 9
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@sboston06: I was just going to suggest having Future Mother-In-Law talk to her!

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