- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I our case, the bride’s family is paying for everything. Father of the bride set out a few rules: doesn’t want to know how much it’s costing (the MOB has a hand on the finances), doesn’t want to know how many people are invited, and no one under 21.
Venue charges full-adult rate for those over 12 – over 160 each, and may go up with add-ons. No discount for the 5 hours of open bar, etc. Chicken fingers and fries are available for those 12 and under for over $50 each. No way.
The flowergirl and ringbearer are going up to their family’s hotel room after the cocktail hour, from 6:00-7:00 PM. With a reception starting 7:00 PM, we’re looking at a main entree being served around 9:00 PM. Totally not suitable for the younger ones.
There’s only 1 exception – a 16.5 year old bridesmaid, who is the brides honorary little sister. Kids who are bored end up playing with their phones/hand held games, running all over the place, getting into mischief, etc. This is a black-tie event, not Chuck-E-Cheese.
Save-the-Dates were address to only the adults, not “and family.” The website was set-up before they were mailed-out. Page 1 of the website stated “The ceremony and celebration have been planned for adult guests 21+.” The invitations will be addressed to the adults.
We’re using the RSVP feature on our wedding website. The RSVP information card, that is part of the pocket invitation, will re-iterate the “Adult guests 21+”. We have to input all the names of invited guests. It will not accept RSVPs for names that are not on the list.
I agree that if you invite some outside the wedding party, the couple’s children, or their nieces and nephews of the couple, you may be stuck inviting all. This includes 1st cousins. Set a minimum age like 18 or 21, or guests will get upset.