- Silver Plum Fairy
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
So I am in need of wording advice for my RSVPs, but I am asking that guests email or call in reply.
I’m printing out my invites this week and my Fiance and I have decided to have an adult only wedding. As the wedding gets closer, the more I am dreading this decision as I just want to make everyone happy. I do not dislike children. I love them, but I just never imagined them in or at my wedding (ceremony and reception).
I’m concerned because I would like to have the entire day adult only. Our wedding and reception is all at the same location. Our wedding is at 2:00pm followed by a cocktail hour and reception/dance likely ending around midnight. I’m thinking that I could allow them to bring their children to the ceremony and then return for dinner without them. I am just concerned about seating and yes screaming children while I say my vows. We’re getting married in the same room the reception will be in. The venue is going to switch over, but as a result, the chairs for the ceremony are also the chairs for the reception (chair covers and all)
This is why we have decided to have an adult only wedding.
My dad’s side of the family is rather large and my cousins have 13 children under the age of 12. Our venue is expensive and I cannot afford to pay for 13 extra meals as well as the cost of extra chairs and table linens. I have invited my second cousin who is 12 (almost 13 by the wedding), but she is the youngest of 4 siblings (her eldest brother is my age).
There is another second cousin from out of town that I would invite, but she is 11 and the eldest of 4 girls. If I were to allow her, I feel it would be a domino effect that would lead to the rest of my 9 second cousins coming to the wedding (just from that city) and then I would likely have to invite my cousin’s four children that live on the other side of the country.
The second reason we made this choice is we are having a twoonie bar (or $2 per drink bar). I have a few of friends coming from my home province for the wedding and I expect them to be quite drunk before dinner is over. I do not want to expose my cousins children to this behaviour.
The third reason is I want my cousins who have kids to be able to let loose and have a good time. I know a lot will leave earlier, but it would be great if they stayed late to dance and drink and celebrate.
So how do I word that? Should I allow children for the ceremony? Will it look tacky to only have the chairs needed for the sit down dinner to have the covers and some uncovered chairs at the back of the room?