(Closed) Adult onset ADHD

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
340 posts
Helper bee

My dad (stepdad that adopted me actually) found out he had adult ADHD after my little brother was diagnosed with it, then my little sister was too he is their biological dad. So apparantly it’s pretty genetic. Their doctor suggested he get tested for it after my siblings did.

Post # 4
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My ex boyfriend has adult onset ADD. The entire time we were dating, I tried to get him to talk to his doctor about it but he wouldn’t. Finally, after we broke, he went back to school and one of his professors recognized the signs and pushed him to get help.

I often wonder if that was my problem in school. I was bad, I was very quiet and shy, but I was a daydreamer and couldn’t focus in class all through school. These days, I do better in a job where I can multi task or do something non repetative.

Anyway, it’s something you should talk to your doctor about.

Post # 5
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is it due to the wedding? I find that i was unable to focus on a lot of other stuff except for me and the wedding and things involved leading up to it…and now i can focus again. It’s like finishing a big huge paper and going “whew! done!”

I fidget and space out and do a lot of that, too, but I’ve never thought I had ADHD at all. I think sometimes it’s easy to think you might have it when in reality some of it is likely just normal spacebrain actions. YOu have a lot on your plate and in college that’s always the case, too. It doesn’t hurt to mention it to your doctor if you’re really concerned and/or it starts seriously impairing your life, but be leery because it is a commonly overdiagnosed issue and the medication can be helpful and not helpful in its own way. It’s a catch-22.

Post # 6
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was finishing my sophomore year in college when I was diagnosed. I had trouble concentrating, getting up like every 20 mins, what material i could get through I knew really well but I never seemed to be able to get though all the material we were suppose to, my brain never seems to turn off. I was not “hyperactive” as a child, but girls can display symptoms in different ways than boys can and not everyone has the same symptoms. There could also be times were it might seem like one is hyperfocused, where you get so caught up in a project that that is all you are aware of and time just seems to get lost even if you get a lot done with that project. There are different types of ADHD and if you are concerned you should talk to your doctor.

Post # 7
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have a couple of friends with adult ADD/ ADHD.  I do want to put out there that this seems to be over-diagnosed for the past few years.  I work in the mental health field and the psychiatrist at work simply said “any adult who has made it through college without pretty serious issues does not have adult ADD”.  I think it should be kept in mind that we live in a culture that promotes ADD tendencies, we are constantly overstimulated and encouraged to juggle multiple things at once. 

That being said, ADD can be a very real and serious thing.  There are also many similarities between ADD and anxiety, which can be situation or a chronic mental health issue.  I would recommend taking more time to observe yourself, think about your past and how your attention was, and if it seems serious to talk to a doctor or other MH professional.  At that stage, if it is recommended that you take medication, I would seek a second opinion just to ensure that it is the best thing for you. 

Post # 8
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I found this really interesting article about the diagnosis of adult ADHD from the journal American Family Physician: http://www.aafp.org/afp/20001101/2077.html

I studied pschological diagnosis in grad school too, and the biggest thing I took away from our study of ADHD is that it is notoriously difficult to evauate. In adults, one of the biggest things they look for is that you’ve had these difficulties your whole life (since around age 7). There are a lot of similar syndromes that can also have symptoms of distractibility and difficulty concentrating.

That said, if you’re feeling not yourself, you should get yourself evaluated by a health care provider. Although medications are the most well-known treatment for this disorder, there are therapies for the types of symptoms you are describing too. It can’t hurt to check it out. Good luck and hope you feel better!


Post # 9
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Bi-polar is also a possibility as it doesn’t usually arise until your 20’s. I’m not at all trying to diagnos him but I do a fair amount of research due to my own diagnosis and sometimes either disorder can manifest similarly in the beginning. Unfortunately, both are hard to pin down. I was diagnosed with chronic depression and mistreated for THREE years before I was properly diagnosed and treated and started to get any sort of releif. I totally understand some people’s reluctance to go to a doctor bc even though I went to them early on, nothing came of it for three years and four doctor’s opinions. They aren’t all knowing!

Post # 10
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@mambinki I agree with you.  I am also in the mental health field and it is often over diagnosed.  You made a good point about what the psych said about anyone surviving college with major problems, most likely it is not severe enough to need a diagnosis or medical treatment.  If it does not disrupt too much of your life I personally would not look too much into it.  It can definitley be a weakness for you, distractibility that is, I know that is for me.  I have to try to work around it with reminders, and post its everywhere.   

Post # 11
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I’m both bipolar and ADHD, which is a pretty fun combo. (Not really…lol). The ADHD was a big problemo forever, I know I drove (and drive!) my teachers crazy. Bipolar didn’t start until my freshman year of college, which is a fairly average age for first onset.

Post # 12
21 posts
  • Wedding: February 2011

Hi There! I actually relate to everything you said. Although I made it through college and didnt have any huge breakdowns. I realized I just needed help after I graduated 2 years later. The problem was that all of a sudden I just couldnt focus. I couldnt make decisions. I couldnt decide what little steps I needed to do. I would cry and get frustrated because I had so much to do (b4 i got engaged btw) and didnt know where to start. Anyhow I finally went to the psychologist who indeed diagnosed me with ADHD. It all made sense- I felt such a relief knowing there was an answer for what I was feeling. And the most important thing I got was knowing what I could do to help myself and help my partner cope with me. The biggest thing was to live by lists and schedules. And with that make a list of what you have to do- then break down the task by steps. EX:I hate returning something. So essentially my list will be Return Jacket: Find Receipt. Put in bag with item. Go to store. Only return item or allow 20minutes after to look around. The problem is that I cant keep track of time- and thats what kills me at the end of the day. I have no concept of time and therfore the lists help so much! Good luck. I recommend going to a professional (if you have coverage and can afford it) or read up on it and learn some coping techniques. I like this site a lot http://www.additudemag.com/    Best of luck to you

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