Post # 1
On another, non wedding, board a confused poster has received an invitation addressed to “Mr and Mrs Smith and family”. However, the invitation itself says “Adult only reception”. They have three children;23,19, and 16. Only the 16 year old lives with them, the 19 year old is away at college, the 23 year old lives on their own.
Who do you think the bride and groom meant to invite.
Post # 3
It seems confusing to me too. I’m having an adult reception, the youngest person there will be about 16. I think adult reception is mostly meant to keep young kids out. I think they should rsvp for the whole family, or call the couple to clarify.
Post # 4
If the youngest is 16, I think they meant to include everyone. 16 is a little young for an adult event, but certainly mature enough to handle themselves at a reception with other family members. It sounds like the couple’s goal was more to keep the really little kids out. An easy way to fix this error would have been to put “Seats reserved: 5” (or whatever number they intended to invite) on the RSVP to give a better idea about who’s allowed to come.
Post # 5
everyone but the 16 year old… i dont know…. i would be calling and finding out who they ment to invite that is confusing
Post # 6
That was a poorly worded invitation, but I’d assume evryone was invited.
Post # 7
I would assume that all 5 Smiths are invited since there are no “children” in their family anymore. Very poorly worded though if they meant “Over 21 only.”
Edit: And then this bride is probably going to come her and post, “OMG! It says adult only and they want to bring their 16 year old!!!!”
Post # 8
That is an incredibly ambiguous invitation! How weird! I would guess all 5 people are included, but I would personally contact the Maid/Matron of Honor or parents of the bride or groom (depending on which family they know) to clarify. The bride in this situation should have specified “adults only” with a concrete age limit and probably should have sent an individual invitation to the 23 year old. I know there are a lot of stresses when wedding planning, but it always bugs me when brides do not pay attention to these sorts of details. Your biggest role after being the future wife of your husband is being a good hostess to your guests.
Post # 9
“and family” denotes EVERYONE is invited. However, if the 23 year old lives on his/her own, they should get their own invitation.
Post # 10
@charmed59: I have no idea. I think Mrs. Smith needs to call the bride to clarify. What a confusing invitation!
Post # 11
I would assume all 5 are invited.
But, maybe call to clarify? The invitation is poorly worded and the 23 year old definately should have gotten his own invitation.
Post # 12
& Family to me means everyone.
Perhaps the bride & groom are inviting a bunch of people with younger children and it’s meant more for them. Still though I would ask before I responded with “yes, I’m bringing all of my kids”.
Ditto to the 23 year old who should’ve got a separate invite.
Post # 13
A sixteen year old is not really a child. I was a married woman at 16 running my own home. I would have been offended if I was excluded for a wedding . I think they mean younger disruptive kids.
Post # 14
I would say 16 is not a child, in fact for our wedding for kids plates children must be 12 and under, so I would say anyone under 12 may be considered a child.