Post # 1
My fiance and I have been to so many events where misbehaving children ruined everything. We have no kids we are particularly close to, so we put Adult reception on the invites. Now we have people complaining. We also have rehearsal dinner guests who have informed us they will be bringing their kids. We don’t want kids there because
1. hard thing for kids to behave at
2. some of the kids are very poorly behaved
3. not fair that some have already made childcare arrangements
4. we have to pay a price per head (kids included) and we are on a tight budget
5. we want to have a relaxing rehearsal dinner
What should we do?
Post # 3
its your wedding – you phone them back and say its an adult only fuction and im sorry you can no longer attend
im sure there are nicer people here that would suggest arranging a baby sitter for these people but im not that freakin’ nice
Post # 4
This is YOUR weddng and if you don’t want kids there, then stick to your guns. You could arrange for childcare for all the kids, if this is a possibility. Otherwise, just talk to them & them know that budget/space limitations will not allow for kids.
I was concerned about this at my wedding, so I spoke to my friends with kids about it. We are having a semi-destination wedding and ALL my friends with kids said they would love the opportunity to leave the kids with grandparents and have a romantic weekend alone together.
Post # 5
I agree with arizonabride – you could arrange for childcare. Maybe there’s an adjoining room in your venue and you could get a teen or two to babysit?
Post # 6
People can truly be rude when it comes to their children (I hope that I remember that if I have my own someday). We are having an adults and children in the wedding party only reception. A couple of my FH’s friends have inquired about children and I have to say that I didn’t feel guilty telling them that children were not invited. In my case the official reason is that it’s a small reception at a very upscale private club. The private reason is that I don’t want a bunch of kids running around like banshees at my wedding. With the nieces and nephews, I know that their parents and grandparents will be there to help keep them in line and I have no problem telling my nephew that he can’t run around the dancefloor with a cup of fruitpunch in his hand.
If people have “informed” you that they are bringing their children to the rehearsal dinner, I would call them to let them know that you unfortunately cannot accommodate children at the event. If you can provide childcare or give them a referral, that’s great, but is by no means required.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Find a babysitter and let them know that a babysitter is available, and tell them the price. You shouldn’t have to deal with children at your wedding if you don’t want to, and how rude of your guests to insist otherwise.
Post # 8
I agree with others that it’s very rude to just “inform” people that you’re bringing your kids when the invite says “adults only.” We’re having no kids at our reception or rehearsal dinner and I agree to just call these people up and tell them that you’re sorry but you cannot accomodate children. Period.
Post # 9
We’re doing it too – we have a generational cut off for kids – nieces and nephews only. It will say adult only on the invites.
Call these people. It’s rude for them to assume. You’re extra nice if you set up a sitter.
🙂 Good Luck!
Post # 10
While the wedding invitations specified adult reception, we weren’t doing formal rehearsal dinner invitations. One of our groomsmen just informed us that he was bringing his kids (who are monsters.) What to do?
Post # 11
and what was your response to him informing you
really, ive had a very crappy day today – would you like me to phone him to take care of it for you? please let me as i will feel much better afterwards im sure…. grrrrr
Post # 12
He emailed, we haven’t replied back.
Sorry you’ve had a rough day. HUG!
Post # 13
This is not acceptable coming from a groomsman whose purpose is to see to it that the bride & groom’s wishes are fulfilled when it comes to things like this. It is traditional etiquette for the bridal party to spread the word that children are not invited if that is what you want! Stand your ground!
Post # 14
nahhh… my bad day is self inflicted – too many bad foods and the toxins trying to kill me
really – just email and say im sorry but its an adult only dinner… until you say something people will keep walking over you