(Closed) Adults Only?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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8461 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re not having children at our wedding, but we have made the exception for 2 newborns whose mothers are traveling from other states to attend our wedding.  Because of the way we explained it to parents, I don’t think anyone was offended.  We simply stated that there are a lot of adult references, an open bar and a late evening reception which made it inappropriate for children.  We’re not having a ring bearer or flower girl though.

Post # 4
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847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@mrs-evans:  I don’t think it’s rude. I mean aside from the baby who has to be with his parents for medical reasons, these children are all close family and/or part of the wedding party. They all have a valid reason to attend. People disputing that or kicking up a fuss are just being silly. I don’t understand this thing where parents insist their children are invited to weddings, the kids rarely get anything out of it. If anybody tries to protest, just be polite but firm. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We had no children EXCEPT my neice and his nephew. My neice was 1.5, my nephew was 14. Some people didnt come, but they were his cousins that I’d never met and he didn’t really care. I mean…you will have some people decline because of it, but you get to make that choice.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My reception and ceremony are adults only as well. i honestly think it’s best that way with the exception of the actually bridal party.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We plan on not having ANY children except my nephews who will be 8 & 12. We plan on putting it right on the invitation: “Adult Only Affair”. My sister did it too and my parents def caught flack for it from some relatives but too bad. As another poster said on another thread, how can you justify playing $150/head for a kid eating chicken fingers and FrenCh fries?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

We stated no children and only had his niece and nephew there (which I wasn’t thrilled about).  I had always said this would be the case and if people chose not to come for that reason then I was fine about it. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Yes, some people might be offended. And others may simply not have trusted child care available to them. That’s a risk that you take.

We had a child-free wedding with the exception of immediate family (aka our son and nephew). It was also a very small wedding, so there were only 2 families on our inviation list who had to find baby sitters. Since we’re all very close, and since both families had trusted family members living close by who are available for childcare, it wasn’t an issue. Even so, we let both families know a year in advance that it would be a child-free wedding so they would have plenty of time to plan. And we also let them know that we were willing to hire an on-site babysitter in case they had to bring their kids with them. What mattered most to us was that we got to celebrate with them, and we would do whatever it took to make that happen.

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