Post # 1
For those of you who had (or are having) adult only weddings, do you regret it? Were people insulted that their children weren’t invited?
My neice and nephew will be invited, and my nephew and his best friend will be our ring bearer and flower girl. We also have friends who have a baby with epilepsy (among other things) and his parents have never been separated from him, so we would invite him as well. They’ll be travelling for the wedding and would not be able to leave him at home.
That’s 4 children invited. Is it rude to have these children and not everyone else’s?
Post # 3
We’re not having children at our wedding, but we have made the exception for 2 newborns whose mothers are traveling from other states to attend our wedding. Because of the way we explained it to parents, I don’t think anyone was offended. We simply stated that there are a lot of adult references, an open bar and a late evening reception which made it inappropriate for children. We’re not having a ring bearer or flower girl though.
Post # 4
@mrs-evans: I don’t think it’s rude. I mean aside from the baby who has to be with his parents for medical reasons, these children are all close family and/or part of the wedding party. They all have a valid reason to attend. People disputing that or kicking up a fuss are just being silly. I don’t understand this thing where parents insist their children are invited to weddings, the kids rarely get anything out of it. If anybody tries to protest, just be polite but firm.
Post # 5
We had no children EXCEPT my neice and his nephew. My neice was 1.5, my nephew was 14. Some people didnt come, but they were his cousins that I’d never met and he didn’t really care. I mean…you will have some people decline because of it, but you get to make that choice.
Post # 6
My reception and ceremony are adults only as well. i honestly think it’s best that way with the exception of the actually bridal party.
Post # 7
We plan on not having ANY children except my nephews who will be 8 & 12. We plan on putting it right on the invitation: “Adult Only Affair”. My sister did it too and my parents def caught flack for it from some relatives but too bad. As another poster said on another thread, how can you justify playing $150/head for a kid eating chicken fingers and FrenCh fries?
Post # 8
We stated no children and only had his niece and nephew there (which I wasn’t thrilled about). I had always said this would be the case and if people chose not to come for that reason then I was fine about it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Yes, some people might be offended. And others may simply not have trusted child care available to them. That’s a risk that you take.
We had a child-free wedding with the exception of immediate family (aka our son and nephew). It was also a very small wedding, so there were only 2 families on our inviation list who had to find baby sitters. Since we’re all very close, and since both families had trusted family members living close by who are available for childcare, it wasn’t an issue. Even so, we let both families know a year in advance that it would be a child-free wedding so they would have plenty of time to plan. And we also let them know that we were willing to hire an on-site babysitter in case they had to bring their kids with them. What mattered most to us was that we got to celebrate with them, and we would do whatever it took to make that happen.
Post # 10
Thanks guys, this makes me feel way better about my decision! Other than people who live close by, and have family members close as well, the only people with children are some of my cousins who would have to travel. And, honestly, I would be okay with some of them not coming, haha, I have too many cousins and am only close to a few of them.