(Closed) Adults only reception – making an exception to allow some children – should I?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should I allow the kids to attend the reception?
    Yes, there will only be a handful of them and at their ages, they should be able to behave : (9 votes)
    19 %
    No, wedding receptions with alcohol are no place for children. : (32 votes)
    67 %
    Other, please explain below : (7 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    have you considered checking with the hotel concierge regarding child care?  most hotels offer this service for their guests.  (extra $$ of course).  or do any of your collegues have a daughter, neighbour, etc to babysit these children in the hotel room?

    Post # 4
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    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    there is also a great website called care.com i will be getting a child care provider from them as my MOH has a autistic son and 2-3 other guests have children who will need care on the wedding day. you can also se the price you would like to pay and look into their background.

    Post # 5
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    1307 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If you have told others that no kids are allowed then no, you should not allow them to attend. Unfortunatley, I feel this leads to hurt feelings, potential arguments, and is pretty unfair.

    That being said, we opted to only allow family members who are children (cousins, neices and nephews). ALL out family kids are able to come (5 total) NONE of our friend’s children are invited (that would be almost 30 kids unde the age of 10!) none of our friends have asked if a kid can come, but if they are struggling, we will tell them we prefer it if children stay home, but understnad they are having difficulty. I am nervous though because if we say this to one, we have to say it to ALL who are struggling, KWIM?

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Care.com is a great site as a PP posted. I used them and found a great sitter-turned-friend! She hasn’t sat for me in over a year and we still get together with our kids every other week or so 🙂

    Post # 7
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I said no, but not necessarily because kids shouldn’t be in a place where alcohol is served… it’s more like it’s unfair to the rest of your guests who are not bringing their kids, and also kids that young are (usually) energetic and get bored easily and there is the potential they will misbehave.

    Post # 8
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    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would say no even though it might suck if they can’t make it…if you make one exception then everyone else is going to want to bring their kids too.

    Post # 9
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    10289 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It’s typically okay to make an exception for OOT children. Most parents won’t travel without their kids and probably wouldn’t be comfortable with a stranger watching them so they can attend the wedding. I doubt any guests would have much of an issue with it as long as they know the reason the exception was made. As for the kids behaving, you’d know better than we would. Some children are great and others are terrors. 

    Post # 10
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    1307 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I also wanted to add that it is fine, in my opinion, to have children atttend weddings where alcohol is served. As a parent, I understand alcohol will be there and it is my responsibility to keep an eye on my child/ren and leave with them if the party is getting out of hand or inappropriate. Enjoy your wedding, and have fun!

    Post # 11
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    7908 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Your hotel should be able to recommend a sitter who is licensed and insured.

    Post # 12
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    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Just another perspective to consider. I understand the PPs making suggestions for finding childcare, and I think that can be a good option for some people. However, we throw lots of parties that include out of town guests, and I know for a fact that my friends would never agree to leave their children with a babysitter they did not know personally. So, make sure you communicate carefully with your FI’s cousin if you decide to go that route. Good luck!

    I would also add that I think it is fine to have kids at a reception with alcohol. Just make sure the parents in question fully understand that alcohol will be served, so that they can make a decision about their children.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, you shoudn’t allow them to come, but not because a wedding is no place for children.  The reason is because you can’t make exceptions for some people and not others.  They understand they need to find a babysitter.  If they can’t find one, they will have to decline.

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Beckster329:  I completely agree.  I am having an adult only reception.  The only children allowed are my 2 flower girls.  If you make an acception for a few people the others will be offended.  I would be.

    Post # 16
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    1510 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    The only children that should have an exception are those children of the bride and groom’s siblings as they are immediate family.  

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