Post # 1
Bees with adults only receptions –
When you were verbally communicating with family and friends to tell them the reception is adults only, did you give an explanation? If so, what did you say?
I’m trying to figure out what is the most PC explanation without going into all the details (as I don’t want people to argue with my decision).
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Im using the budget and space as an issue!
and also its our personal choice and its our day, so hopefully we get what we want 🙂
Post # 4
I always say blame on the venue if you can.
We’re just saying no kids. Period. I don’t think we’ll have too much of an arguement from anyone. We’re worried about one person and I already have my grandmother on the case reminding her to get a babysitter and such as we’re not having kids at the reception.
Post # 5
“The venue has a policy about serving alcohol with children present. Because we wanted an open bar, we decided to have an adult only reception so our guests could enjoy themselves.”
“We aren’t comfortable serving alcohol around children, so we opted for an adult only reception so our guests can enjoy themselves”
“We know some of our friends are going to get rowdy and probably inappropriate at the reception. We don’t want to expose children to all that, so we chose to simply have an adult only reception so that all of our guests could let loose and enjoy themselves.”
Post # 6
I was never asked the reasons but our issue was first and foremost space, and then equality (we didn’t want to allow some kids, and not all–wouldn’t be fair!)
Post # 7
Our venus is an art museum, so we used the whole “breaking of fine art liability” as our main point. It’s also a budget thing. We’re trying to make it very clear on the invites by saying how many seats have been reserved for each invite, and our website explains the kids only “art gallery reception” policy…
Post # 8
Our explaination was simple and honest…we just dont want kids running around and ruining our elegant reception. And another reason would be i am paying 25 dollar per child to have chicken fingers and fries. Sorry…
We listed it on our reception insert on our invites as “adult only reception” and it says so on our wedding website.
Post # 9
Kept it simple – an evening formal reception (8 PM) which is really an adult reception, not meant for kids. The only person who gave us grief was my brother’s wife.
Post # 10
Our problem is we are having a full mass Catholic wedding at 3pm followed by a plated dinner reception from 5pm to 10pm. Since our wedding is early, we are afraid people are going to think its casual and family friendly (which its not). Our reception venue is not child friendly at all and we don’t want to pay for surf and turf plated dinners for children (and we don’t want them running around on the dance floor).
Post # 11
Just state it simply. We’re a destination wedding our website just reads “While you are welcome to bring your children for a weekend of fun in the mountains, our ceremony and reception are for adults only. We will be happy to help you find a babysitter in the area and coordinate with other parents to share costs, if you so choose.”
We’ve had a few people not come because they couldn’t bring their kids, but for the most part people are just bringing the kids and sharing sitters at the hotel.
All you can do it tell people what you want and let them make their own decisions. If they have an issue with it – it’s THEIR issue, not yours.
Post # 12
We actually haven’t been asked about the adult only reception. We really don’t have many kids that would be old enough to attend anyway (mostly babies). If confronted I would say something similar to the other bees…the venue doesnt allow for open bar with children so we opted to have adult only