(Closed) Adults-Only Wedding Wanted

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s your wedding. You don’t have to invite kids. I think it’s great that you’d offer babysitting for the kids and that should be enough for your Future Mother-In-Law.

I am VERY adamant about not wanting children at my wedding but we’ll see how that news unfolds with my family after we’ve had that discussion. But we have an issue with space. if everyone brought their kids, and some people on FH’s side have 10 kids, people would have to eat outside in their cars because we have such limited seating.


Post # 4
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s really your day and within reason, you really should be able to do what you please.  I sympathize with you and understand that it wouldn’t be fair to invite the children on one side but not on the other.  I would tell my Future Mother-In-Law that if she wants those children at the wedding so badly, she can go ahead and shoulder the expense to have them there as well as the children on your side of the family – that’s basically what it would cost you to appease both families and if that’s an expense she’s willing to incur then so be it.

Post # 5
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hey I totallly feel for you; but I think you know what you need to do since you told us that this is the ONE thing that you are ADAMANT about. It’s completely reasonable, you’re not making a crazy request. Your only choice here is whether or not to provide babysitting, not whether or not to invite them.

At some point FMIL’s going to have to realize she doesn’t run your guys’ lives so it might as well start now with your completely reasonable and socially acceptable plan.

Thank her for taking the time to get you a guest list and then feel free to SLASH it. haha


Seriously. Stay strong. 🙂

Post # 6
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am having one as well.. .I only heard someone’s mouth once or twice. I am expecting things to go smoothly. I will have a guard downstairs keeping people out who aren’t on the list.

Post # 7
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

yeah, i want a “no kids” wedding also. i just dont want to come across as rude. ihavent brought it up with either side of the family yet, as wedding planning is in early stages. we have booked a full open bar for the reception and i feel like if people bring their kids they wont stay as long once the kids get cranky and want to go home. on the other hand, will people be leaving at 930 because “the babysitter needs to go home”. its tough, but im going to stick to my word on this one

Post # 8
10571 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

At my venue, one of the locations is 18+ only.  For those of you who only want adults that’s one way to ensure no kids show up (but you’re also eliminating any older teenagers as well).

Post # 9
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If your Fiance agrees with you than have him talk to his mom.  He should deal with her, not you.

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